To be annoyed with dh

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Don't usually do Aibu as I'm a bit scared of it but here goes...
As a bank holiday treat we decided to order a Chinese takeaway banquet and the kids were looking forward to it. We laid the main dining table instead of our usual on the knee or kitchen table. Ds1 even made name places!
We had just sat down when our neighbour knocked on the door. Dh went to answer it an I expected he woul say we were eating. No, he stood chatting at the door for 10 minutes then came back in looking sheepish. He had told them he'd run them to the pub! Right in the middle of our meal!
He was gone another 10 minutes and by the time he got back ds2 and 3 had had enough to eat, got bored and wondered off.
I am sick of trying to organise nice family time for it all to go tits up.
Aibu to have expected dh to say we were in the middle of dinner and they would have to wait or find another way of getting there?

Agree a bit with the likelihood of this dinner only being a BIG event for you, unfortunately.

It would be different if you or him had spent time and effort cooking up something.

Takeaways are usually a low key event, non?

Ok, so I think the general consensus is that Ianbu (phew) but minty is right, I shouldn't let it fester. Easier said that done, I feel like the whole evening is ruined now, kids gone back to their own stuff and I feel irritated.

How do I rescue this?

I think leaving in the middle of any meal for a non emergency reason is the height of rudeness. It's just not what a family meal should be about and it's a terrible example to the DC.

I agree bruthas.
I am rubbish at letting something go until I stop being annoyed though and don't actually want to ruin the whole evening.

I'm rubbish at it too plus I'm the planner in my family as well and hate it when things don't go to plan. Best advice is to try and smile and your DH and the kids, and hopefully the mood will lift. Fake it til you make it

I'd be pissed off too. Yes, it was only a takeaway, but it was a little treat over a long weekend when you get the opportunity for a bit more family time than normal, and it's ok to be disappointed that it didn't work out how you had hoped.

I think you need to identify exactly how you feel about and why you feel that way, then explain it calmly to your DH. From the sounds of it, your DH wouldn't have intended you to feel bad, he just made a forgivable mistake.

Thank you for understanding, I actually feel a bit tearful...pathetic over a takeaway (makes mental note I check calendar to see if AF is due soon).
We'll sort it out I'm sure but thanks for listening everyone, my little rant on here may be enought to save dh from a real life rant...

Hey I can understand feeling upset about that -I would. It may be just a takeaway to some but to you and your DC it was a bit diffent and a bit special.

I say once children in bed have lovely glass or two of something, cuddle up to husband and thank him for being so kind to neighbours and say next time though please stay so we can eat all together and have a family night - Dc1to chose menu choices next time.

Oooo Bea, I am so stubborn, I wish I could be more like that but not sure I can. He's doing bedtime at the moment while I sulk downstairs. I am going to try really hard to be nice when he comes down!

That would piss me off too.

I'm trying to imagine how I'd react if DH did it but I can't envisage any situation that would entice him to leave a full plate of dinner behind!

He's done other thoughtless things though - best to be straight and say how annoyed you are so you can move past it and have a nice evening.

Try hard

I am stubborn and sulk ! My DH is lad back and mostly it is wasted on him, just makes me silkier !

Went out today with DS for activity that had been planned for ages but involved getting up hideously early and at last minute DH decided not to go .... Still we had a lovely time and I'm now feeling hungry -Chinese sounds good

Very rude! I would be really pissed off if my DH did that.