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To not want to go to this wedding

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Fionnabhair · 25/08/2013 17:18

A friend i worked with 7 years ago is getting married next year. He and I were never best friends and only socialised with other people about back then. He got a girlfriend and stopped really hanging out with other people. I left the job and he did soon after.

About 4 years ago we re-connected on Facebook when he split up with his girlfriend and moved back with his parents. We had a few chats on there and met up with other people for drinks a handful of times. He again got a girlfriend and i didn't hear from him until about a year ago.

Same story, they'd split up and we chatted a few times on Facebook then i didn't hear from him for a while so figured he had got another girlfriend (now fiancee). He sent out a mass message on Facebook inviting people to the wedding.

I don't like formal occasions at the best of times but if he was a good friend there would be no question about me attending. It is just he seems like too much of a ''fair weather friend'' or someone who only gets in contact when there is no-one else to occupy their time or is in need of advice or a distraction.

Maybe my sense of friendship is more to do with how long we have known each other rather than any common interests and he is someone who should be thought of as an acquaintance rather than a friend?

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ChocsAwayInMyGob · 25/08/2013 17:20

A mass invite on Facebook? I wouldn't go unless specifically asked by name, preferably by post.

Fionnabhair · 25/08/2013 17:23

I thought that was a bit weird too. I have a feeling that was him acting on his own though and getting a bit carried away in announcing it

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inkyfingers · 25/08/2013 17:24

Ignore it, it's not an invitation. If its not individually issued, it means he doesn't care who comes.

loopyluna · 25/08/2013 17:25

Wait for an official invite by post before even contemplating going!

AKissIsNotAContract · 25/08/2013 17:26

Wait and see if you get a proper invitation first. Once they start looking into the costs of a wedding they might realise a mass invitation was a bad idea

Mia4 · 25/08/2013 17:32

Wait for an actual invite OP, just in case what AKissIsNotAContract says is true-which is very possible.

In the context you've described I would say acquaintance not friend, just fb friend.

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