to ask my DS (10) to keep his mouth shut when he's eating?

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We have argued about this on-and-off for 5 years.

And I flew off the handle today, seriously, the noise was deafening, and I am sick of seeing churning food. It makes such an awful sound ...

I have always given him some benefit of the doubt, because he has a mild dust-mite allergy (not asthma) and I have wondered if he can't breathe properly through his nose, when he's eating.

However, on strict instructions today to close his mouth whatever the reason he did actually manage it!

Could this be a valid reason, or is my son just being lazy and rude and I should insist on it? I am a confused.

Just chipping in here, I have misophonia, which means that some noises induce rage and horror for me, the chief of which is people eating with their mouths open. FIL does it, with a little plosive smack of his lips, and it's all I can do to stomach eating in the same room as him.

You'll be doing your son a favour by not letting him develop such a gross habit.

Imagine if you don't nip this in the bud right now, and he grows up and goes out to restaurants and everyone around him is appalled and disgusted by his bad table manners!

YANBU. When I worked at a holiday place I would sit in the cafeteria for three meals a day cringing at my many many colleagues who saw nothing wrong with eating with their mouths open and talking with full mouths. I hate it. I'm constantly reminding my charges that I don't want to see their food

I have one child who got the hang of this just fine and one who still needs reminding. I'm also prepared to remove food, although she doesn't do it to be naughty, she just forgets quite quickly (at age 7).

Can be a medical issue, I couldn't breathe through my nose as a child due to a blockage/obstructed nasal passages. I can't do it now as I feel I can't breathe, I panic. I do eat as discreetly as possible but it can be incredibly difficult..

If your unsure if medical WHY haven't you seen a doctor?

Seriously? Scare the hell out of the boy and take him! Bet he chews closed then.

That would drive me crazy. I can't stand it.

Dh does it and I have tried unsuccessfully for 35 years to retrain him. His mother is the same. I feel very embarassed when we are invited to friends' houses to eat. Dh has always been oblivious of the way he eats or of what others might think. But at least when we are out he doesn't lick his plate or use fingers to push food onto the fork, which he does at home!

I'm another one that doesn't like open mouth chewing, DS is 7 and most of the time manages it. My Mum I have to constantly tell her not to talk and eat.

There is a woman on the tills in our Co-Op that I avoid as she is constantly chewing gum with her mouth open, she chews in that cow like way and you see the gum going round and round...looks disgusting

Ewwww. Sit opposite him and do it back so he sees how gross it is.

Can you film him and threaten to show it to his first girlfriend when you first get to meet her.

I got stuck offshore with an engineer who ate and spoke with his mouth open. 2 weeks into the tour I just let rip at him and told him to chew with his fucking mouth shut or go eat somewhere else. He ate somewhere else, but the fucker started chewing gum as it helped with seasickness. 3 weeks, stuck in a cramped office, on a boat in the middle of the North Sea I was bloody demented.

Yanbu! X