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...to want my neighbours to turn their music down?

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makemineabacardi · 25/08/2013 15:09

Lads in their 20's living next door (renting from the parents of one of them). Parties on a regular basis which is bad enough, but it goes up a notch on bank holidays.

Music at a level where you can hear it through our whole house and over the TV has been going on since 10am. I expect it to go on until the early hours of tomorrow morning. Theyre drinking in the garden.

Cant go out as I stupidly chose today to gloss the woodwork in living/dining room. Cant retaliate as DD is trying to sleep. Based on past experience they wont turn it down and noise folk arent interested.

Theres a sign on their front door saying 'open house - bring your vodka and charlie' (slang for cocaine).

AIBU to want to scream? Sad

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Nancy66 · 25/08/2013 15:12

Take a picture of the sign and send it to the adult that owns the house - along with your complaint.

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makemineabacardi · 25/08/2013 15:13

The parents dont care either, tried that route before. The little darlings do no harm apparently.

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Nancy66 · 25/08/2013 15:15

Then you have my sympathy, we've had to endure nuisance neighbours for about 8 years now and I know how unpleasant it can be.

If you suspect there's drug use /dealing on the premises then might be worth a call to police.

ILetHimKeep20Quid · 25/08/2013 15:17

Arf at sign. That's not for real is it?

EstelleGetty · 25/08/2013 15:19

You could always photograph the sign and show the police.

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makemineabacardi · 25/08/2013 15:25

Well just rang the police to ask advice - was told they cant do anything about the noise (knew this already tho) and the sign advertising cocaine on the front door means nothing. Told to ring back at 2-3am if its still going on. So there you go.

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vtechjazz · 25/08/2013 16:23

How about you advertise the party online, and hopefully it will turn into one if those huge parties that ruins the house and gets on the news. Will the parents notice then??

LoopyLupo · 25/08/2013 16:30

IME its an issue that has to be seen as a long term issue that will take a while to resolve officially.

You need to decide if want to make it offical and deal with possible repercussions.

Then you need to keep a diary of times the music goes on and off.

Contact the noise department of your council and explain you are keeping a diary. Also tell them that they have ignored your attempts to resolve this.

The council may act then by going round or offering mediation.

Ultimately, if all fails, the council should offer you sound recording equipment which is the proof the EH need to act officially.

Its a long process and not one that is fair on you.

You have my sympathies. I know the hell you are going through.

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makemineabacardi · 25/08/2013 17:02

No thanks vtech, think that would only make it worse! Wink

We've had trouble from these lot before Lupo, since we moved in 5 years ago. Kept diaries for the council etc, they just said it wasnt bad enough. Nobody cares. I think we just have to put up with it till we can afgord to move.

I texted the mum to ask if she could at least get them to take the sign down. That was 2 hours ago. Tempted to go round and remove it myself.

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makemineabacardi · 25/08/2013 17:02

*afford

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EstelleGetty · 25/08/2013 17:13

I feel for you, bacardi, I hope it gets sorted out. We had a young guy in the flat below us who used to come in on a Sunday night at about 4am and have after parties. Usually blasting out Return of the Mack. My DH, who had to get up for work in 1.5 hours, was going out of his mind. Thankfully, he's moved on.

If it does worsen during the day, keep at the police.

ChoudeBruxelles · 25/08/2013 17:19

If you suspect that they are doing drugs phone the police on the non emergency number

Start to keep a diary and call environmental health at your council on Tuesday. They should write to them to say they have had a complaint (they don't have to say who it's from). Keep keeping a diary and every time the are very noisey call the environmental health team. Phone them a lot so they do something

Also worth getting intouch with your local bobby if they ever spill on to the street and if you ever suspect that they are drink/drug driving report it

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makemineabacardi · 25/08/2013 17:21

Well its got worse since I rang them - the base is so loud the stuff on my mantle is bouncing Grin. DH has taken DD out to the park for a bit though which is good.

Really hoping they go out into town soon.

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LottieJenkins · 25/08/2013 17:21

Wont it be hard when you want to move though! (don't want to worry you!) You have to declare problems with neighbours don't you? Confused

alemci · 25/08/2013 17:32

is it not affecting other neighbours. could they help?

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makemineabacardi · 25/08/2013 17:33

You have to declare problems if you make an official complaint, Lottie, which is why I havnt after the first time I kept a diary (which was shortly after we first moved in). The parents were making noises about selling up, so am just waiting in hope that they do.

Honestly, Choude, Ive rung 101 several times down the years and they dont care. A metaphorical shrug of the shoulders is all I get. Sounds unbeliveable I know.

Went round and took the sign down myself. Hoping there wont be repercussions for being a killjoy.

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makemineabacardi · 25/08/2013 17:36

Neighbour on their other side is an old man with a heart condition who is very poorly. Neighbours around us wont get involved as it doesnt affect them directly.

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Nancy66 · 25/08/2013 17:40

problem/noisy neighbours are much much easier to address if you're in social housing - if it's privately owned housing then it's pretty much impossible. In the end it comes down to someone moving.

We have made lots of official complaints about our neighbours which will knock about 30% off its value if we put it on the market.

girliefriend · 25/08/2013 17:50

Have you gone round and spoken to them? You have my sympathies, the lad next door to me had his music on loud until the earlies hours last night, in the end I put some of my dds ear plugs in just to try and get some kip.

It is not an every day occurrence though and I would be round there banging on his door hysterically if it were!!!

I am also pretty disgusted the police won't do more Angry

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makemineabacardi · 25/08/2013 17:51

I'd noticed that too Nancy, it puts me off even owning again. Lovely as our house is, if we'd had been renting it we'd have moved out years ago. We own, they own, stalemate till someone moves.

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ChoudeBruxelles · 25/08/2013 17:51

Get in touch with the area commander for where you live. Keep bugging them.

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makemineabacardi · 25/08/2013 17:55

Been round before girlie, they never answer music too loud. I complained to one of them in the street a while back and he was pleasant and polite but it made no difference. These are lads who never went to university but are in 'uni mode' IYSWIM.

Good idea about the area commander choude.

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Greydog · 25/08/2013 17:56

We had a neighbour who partied constantly. As I get up early to walk the dog I used to turn the speakers to the wall and play opera to them as I went out. They calmed down considerably. But why are there so many rude, selfish inconsiderate and down right unpleasant people about?

Blueberryveryberry · 25/08/2013 18:28

I see your neighbours and I raise you my very loud Portuguese neighbours.

alemci · 25/08/2013 18:29

makes me cross that the police won't do more. I don't understand. they are meant to keep the peace.