I love him but my god he gets on my nerves.

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We have had a bad few years but we have finally got through it and l think by the end of October we will have a good routine.

So not to drip feed l will give you the jist of it,dh was made redundant spent a year in a job he hated,l was made redundant whilst pregnant and recently returned to work.His mum has dementure and we have a lovely son.

But you know what hes just never happy and he sees everything as a major crisis and its starting to wear me down.

Two examples Friday morning running behind l ask him to get our ds dressed and he starts huffing and puffing and shouting about how its my job blah blah.l ignore him and finish getting myself ready (we were leaveing togeather and he was ready). This morning l ring the car showroom that l bought my car from that my engine light has come back on after only one day of it being fixed on friday. They ask me to call on tuesday to let the receptionist know to book it back in l say l cant as l am working and as my dh is off work l say he can ring on hearing this he starts having a meltdown because he has to mind our ds on Tuesday and take his car for the mot,he cant possibly make a 3 min phone call. My god l could go on and on. I have just told him that lve had enough and that until he can tell me why he thinks l should be shouted at daily then hes not to speak to me.l seriously feel like walking out today.

Sorry l posted too soon.

On friday l told him lve had enough of him shouting in front of our ds and lm sick of doing everything.l feel like l arrange all the childcare,all our meals, all the cleaning and washing and lve had enough. He thinks he is husband of the year for cutting the grass. He thinks hes father of the year for getting ds ready for bed and changeing a nappy he is constantly telling me he does more than other dads.lrs not the point is it,its about what goes on in our home that matters.

Im so pissed of right now its my day off l got up with ds and cleaned the kitchen while he slept in and now he is watching the grand prix.lm fucking stupid arnt l,he is always telling me lm too soft and l am.lm not gonna do anything the next two days while hes off because when l was off he didnt have to come home and do stuff. Im fumming.

He needs to understand our ds has two parents and three people live in this house and if he wants to know whats happening he should ask and write it down if he cant remember he is a grown man not a fucking child. Although ge acts like one. Arrrgh.l dont think thats too much to ask for do you ? He also needs to learn to comprimise so l dont feel taken for granted all the time.

Bloody men,sorry for my major rant.

If you think your DH is probably a wanker, it's because he is.

Why do you think things will get better in October?

I'm struck by your saying 'we've had a bad couple of years'. I know marriages have ups and downs but a couple years is pretty intense. I don't think you'd be feeling this way if you'd finally 'gotten through it' as you say.

It's not all men, it is this kind of man.

Sounds a lot more than just getting on your nerves!

Chip l agree. But it reallt is more of the case he behaveing lije a wanker..lm just sick of the constanr battles.ln octobee my hours will be more of a routine tgats when l finish my training and fall into a shift pattern.

I remembee reading sime were about life being hard and you have to be able to bend with it hes just not bendable. He has worse pmt than me . There are loads of other things that get on my nerves but l dont think they are working arfueing over but constantly shouting when things dont go his way is getting on my nerves big tine.l dont see us being married forever.

Get some legal advice, then at least you can start protecting yourself...

Can he talk about other stuff in a rational manner? Or does everything get blown up into a crisis?