To wonder why I've been invited to this party?

[WAWD]

Have just received a Facebook Message Invite from a friend who is helping organise some other person's 40th party at a big nightclub.

Thing is, the birthday girl defriended me some time ago on facebook. I genuinely have no idea why. I was a bit puzzled but thought 'oh well, I don't know her very well, we don't socialise, never talk, etc. Fair enough'. We definitely had not enough contact for me to offend her by anything. I guess, personally, in this situation, I would go for 'restricting' not 'defriending', especially given we live in a small town and may bump into one another (suppose I try to avoid social awkwardness).

So, given this, the invite came as a bit of a surprise. I'm wondering if I've been pulled in to 'make up the numbers' tbh, and on that basis am inclined to just opt out. WWYD? And what would you give as the reason for that to the mutual friend who's helping organise?

i think you are overthinking the while thing - its only an invite to a party - FB is not RL, its all make believe. i would go if someone invited me and i could make it.

I defriended people who I either don't consider as friends or who never interact with me on FB.

Maybe she just didn't want you seeing her stuff but couldn't be arsed to restrict what you could see? Maybe she had a cull. Maybe you are friends with someone she fell out with and she thought you might pass on info to that person from he page. Could be many reasons.

If you never socialise in real life it's a bit odd that you would be invited.

wawd - but it's easy. If Facebook didn't exist, would you enjoy spending an evening with this person and her posse?

Tying yourself in knots about what someone meant by de-friending you is about as pointfull as getting cross at old people for SHOUTY EMAILS. It's a new medium. Like a new country - tread gently & if in doubt: smile and assume the best.

Do you think I'm tying myself in knots? I mean.. Really? As opposed to this just being a curious but not especially threatening interactional social puzzle...one that has crossed my mind as slightly perplexing but which I'm not exactly having sleepless nights over. But yes.. I can smile and let it pass. Just wondered about why I was invited s'all.

I may well enjoy spending an evening as I think she's probably a laugh (which is why I was prepared to be friends with her in the first place). Oh god, now I don't know what to do... lol. I shall decide tomorrow.

You were invited because it's her 40th birthday.

Or maybe it is a st

I don't mean to keep digging at you - but it just comes across petty and a bit guest-zilla to be so suspicious of the motives.

Go; don't go - wish her a happy birthday either way - and let go of the evil blue beast.

I delete at will on facebook. One thing I delete for is if people don't really post a lot - I do post frequently and honestly and I don't like that to get too one-sided IYSWIM. So I have deleted people I like because they lurk/under share. I like it to be balanced and not feel like I'm 'talking' to a room where everyone is listening and no-ones talking back.

So honestly, I wouldn't give it another thought. Go if you want to go.

Also if you are close friends with the organiser she could well have invited a couple of people who she's not especially close to as a nice thing for the organiser. I invited a couple of people to my 40th because I knew my bf, who helped out massively with the organisation, would like it.

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Many many reasons why people unfriend OP and unless you've had a falling out then maybe take it as lack of offline interaction? If you want to catch up then go, if you aren't interested or bothered in contact then don't.

A possibly different perspective...am just organising a milestone birthday party and have taken the opportunity/excuse to invite some friends I haven't seen for years. I hope they don't think it's weird - I just thought, well we've lost touch but I am very fond of you and once we were close, and this party provides a perfect reason to reach out again. If I don't do it at this party I will never do it again.

And if they don't respond that's fine, I have lost nothing but the price of a stamp. But already a very old school friend who I have not seen for 15 or 20 years has said she is coming from abroad!!! I am so chuffed to see her again! So maybe it's the same for your old friend.