To want to go to sleep without hearing my noisy neighbours cackling in their garden?

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Ok so new neighbours moved in and I think they are away during the week as at wkends they have friends round and socialise, fair enough. The first time they were going to have an actual party they stopped outside my house introduced themselves and warned me of a "may be noisy but won't be late party" that eve, it went on till 3am :(
Since then I am on edge every wkend wondering if they'll be out in the garden again as they must be either the loudest talkers in the world or due to the fact that their wall surrounding the garden (which they added extra height to soon after moving in) is only 8 feet from my bedroom window!!
AIBU to expect them to bugger off indoors after a certain time? I am here with my dd on my own and really don't want to have to go round there as they do seen nice enough, talk this eve has been about caviar lol so????

I think in your situation with a child I would compromise by leaving well alone if its just talking and laughing but I would have a lighthearted word if they played loud music past about midnight on a weekend.

You don't want to get into a noise war where they complain about your daughters playing with friends in the future!

I never complain about the neighbour's parties or dogs. We have discussed it. They know I figure it is a fair swap for the noise my children make in the garden. Live and let live is usually best.

If it's after 11, then it's neither reasonable or legal.

The people on here saying YABU are very likely the one's that do it so their advice could be taken with a pinch of salt!!

OP I have a lot of sympathy with you. My neighbour has friends who drink a lot and then the cackling starts, it is so high pitched and the noise really carries at night.

sanctimummy - living in a detached house does not mean you cannot hear the neighbours unfortunately :)

I don't think YABU.

I do generally take the attitude of live and let live, but I think people should be considerate about the time they are 'sharing' their noise with others.

You can certainly tell the difference between opinions here!

ILetHimKeep - not exactly I live in a bungalow and my bedroom window is next to their garden - not the same as a semi detached that overlooks a garden!
WorraLiberty - I do have the windows closed!!! Dont you think I would have tried that
Sancti - It is detached!! - whats your next plan?

Anyway, I went to visit them and they were lovely, extremely apologetic and understood when I explained the conversations I had heard! (With the window shut I might add ) They gave me their mobile and asked me to contact them at any time if its got too late/noisy etc.

Thanks to those that helped! To those that did think I was BU, obviously it hasnt happened to you, yet!

I think you are being a bit U although I can understand as I'm a bit neurotic about noise myself.

They clearly were trying to do the right thing with the party and lines of communication are open, so couldn't you go round and have a very gentle word and just ask if there's any way they could move it inside after about 10.30?

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Earplugs are your friend. Seriously. My neighbours complain about my husband's snoring, but WTaF am I supposed to do about it? I wear earplugs, never bothers me. Never slept through my alarm because of them either.

Oh good news. They sound reasonable.

I was going to say YANBU

I have a detached house but neighbours put a gazebo on fence and sit out chatting and smoking sometimes all night !
Even though we detached we can here them clearly and I’m getting madder and madder
Have asked them loads of time to be considerate
Are they allowed to disturb us after 11pm ?