I think I just need to vent to be honest but here goes...
One of my friends and I have been drifting apart over the last few years and while I realise it's quite sad to lose a friend, I also know that we have ended up just going in different directions in life and have very little in common. We used to live in the same city, but about 6 months ago DH and I moved to Scotland and the friend and I have barely spoken since.
A few weeks ago he called me up asking if I was mad at him? We hadn't spoken/texted in weeks. But he hadn't called either. I said of course not just haven't had anything to report. He kept going on about how glad he was that I wasn't mad at him and missed hanging out with me. I reminded him that I have always said he can come and visit for a weekend whenever he wants. Which was a genuine offer. I love having people to stay because when we lived in England we were in a much smaller house and didn't have any room for visitors, but here we have space and are well located for attractions. He seemed really happy things were fine between us and we left it at that.
The next day he called again and invited himself up for a week. I should have put my foot down there and then and said no, that's too long, but I was so taken aback I just mumbled in agreement and said of pick him up at the station.
He's been here since Tuesday. Unless I have actually arranged a trip somewhere he has just been mooching around the house in his PJs. I work from home so it basically felt like he was breathing down my neck all week waiting for me to finish work so we can do stuff. We live a 10 minute walk from town there are LOADS of things he could do and see without me! I felt so guilty for working, even though I made it clear that's what I'd be doing when he arranged to come up.
On top of this he has been a really bad house guest. He hasn't opened the curtains or made the bed in our guest room the whole time he's been here. I wouldn't usually look in the guest room when people are staying because I think it's an invasion of privacy, but he just leaves the door open (even when he goes to sleep, we have to walk past the open door on the way to the loo!). Yesterday the duvet was on the floor. I'm not sure if I should go in and move the plants out, they are probably going to die with no daylight for a week.
We have gone out for drinks pretty much every night since he got here. This isn't something that DH and I usually do, we tend to just go to the pub on Friday night and that's it. My friend hasn't bought either of us a single drink the whole time. When we went out for dinner on Tuesday when he got here we split the bill, which is absolutely fair, but since then I have cooked dinner every night, and he's not offered to help once. He comes in the kitchen sits down and just eats the food. He doesn't eve offer to help with the washing up, and he unloaded the dishwasher once, into the table (even the cutlery). He might as well have left it in the dishwasher I still had to put it away. Bit It's quite expensive feeding an extra person for a week! Maybe I'm naive to assume a glass of wine by way if thanks?
This morning we went out for brunch and I bought us all coffees and he didn't say thank you or offer me money for his. Then after brunch he told us he "felt he was obliged to buy us something for letting him stay and what do we want?" I just mumbled about a bottle of wine or something, but to be honest I'm beyond caring. I've spent so much of food and drinks and going to touristy places with him (that I wouldn't have otherwise done) I just want to stay at home and watch a film and not have to spend any more money. I keep suggesting things he can do on his own but he just says "it's ok, I'll wait for you". I don't think I spend this much time with DH even!! Even if we're on holiday we like a bit of solitude!
IABU to just want some sympathy and maybe someone to share in my pain? Anyone else have any stories of difficult guests? I've feigned an important work emergency to lock myself in the office to write this!