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Original poster

To be pissed off with DH for going into London for a afternoon of drinking without me?

22 replies

chilipeppers · 24/08/2013 15:13

My DH parents are here for the weekend. They made plans to meet friends in London today we were going in to meet them for an hour or two. My DD isn't well today, nothing to bad but didnt want to take her out in this awful weather. Anyway so we call to tell them we aren't coming and my MIL "sounded upset" so my DH has gone to me them, leaving me on my own at home with a very grumpy DD on a very wet Saturday with no plans. I never mind him going out or spending time with family but just a bit fed up he left us at home alone today.

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Crowler · 24/08/2013 15:14

I can't tell without more context.

Is this a pattern?

I think it's fairly normal for one person to try to salvage plans in the case of a sick child. Particularly when you have out of town visitors.

Sparklysilversequins · 24/08/2013 15:16

Why do you both need to sit at home? I assume his parents aren't around every weekend so it makes sense he would like to spend that time with them surely?

pooka · 24/08/2013 15:17

Oh dear - afraid I think YABU.

Makes no sense at all both of you being stuck inside, and if dh's parents are visiting, then obviously he should be the one to go out.

While you may be fed up, I think you'd be nreasonable to expect him to stay in or to spoil is fun. Tis is on the understanding that if the roles were reversed and it was your parents, you would be the one going out.

Elderflowergranita · 24/08/2013 15:18

I don't think your husband is doing anything untoward.

Why would both of you stay home?

Ragwort · 24/08/2013 15:20

You sound totally unreasonable, unless there is a back story to this.

Are your parents actually staying with you and have since gone into London to meet some friends? Why does it really matter if your DH goes off to meet them, surely you get some peace and quiet at home with your DD Grin - win-win I would have thought. Smile.

pinkdelight · 24/08/2013 15:21

"An afternoon of drinking" - I assumed he'd gone off on the lash with his mates! He's gone to see his parents who are only there for the weekend. YABU. If it was your parents, presumably he'd have stayed home "with no plans" (what plans can you hope to have?? your DD is sick!).

Crumbledwalnuts · 24/08/2013 15:23

Yes this is an entirely normal and reasonable thing for your husband to do. Would you really rather go out drinking than be at home with your sick kid? Obviously he's gone to meet his parents. What would he add to the whole "cooping up at home" scenario? Nothing.

hettienne · 24/08/2013 15:25

I've had similar happen - PIL visiting, supposed to all go out for dinner, DS ill, so I stayed in and DP went (and it was a restaurant I really wanted to go to!).

But what else could we do? Stupid for everyone to miss out.

CreatureRetorts · 24/08/2013 15:38

YABU. Why wouldn't he want to see his own parents?

Do you not like MIL?

Lighthousekeeping · 24/08/2013 15:43

YABU. If you and your DD had gone it wouldn't have been for "an afternoon of drinking" surely? So, why has it become one now?

diddl · 24/08/2013 15:45

Well I'd rather that than be stuck in the house with my MILBlush

Tryharder · 24/08/2013 15:46

I don't believe you. Why would it piss you off that your DH has honoured his plans to meet his parents.

Nancy66 · 24/08/2013 15:47

So...not so much 'an afternoon of drinking' as 'visiting parents.'

PramQueen1971 · 24/08/2013 15:52

Get a grip, woman. Your co-dependency is hurting my eyes.

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chilipeppers · 24/08/2013 15:54

Yes I like my MIL. Yes it will be a afternoon of drinking, a lot now my DD isn't going! They will all come in totally pissed as they do when they get together. Which I don't mind by the way! So obviously you All think I'm being unreasonable. Ok at lest I know!

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Squitten · 24/08/2013 15:54

YABU! He's gone to see his parents as arranged. It sucks when your kids are ill and you have to miss out but that's parenting!

Ragwort · 24/08/2013 15:56

I still don't see the problem, if you feel you are missing out on the 'drinking', open a bottle or two for yourself. Hmm

I would much rather stay at home than go out drinking with my in-laws Grin.

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chilipeppers · 24/08/2013 16:07

I don't want to "drink" I'm not drinking at the moment anyway so that is not the problem!

As I said you all think IBU and I'm fine with that! Just wanted to know if I'm being silly ( hormonal ) or if you thought he was being a selfish git. And I know now! Still fed up but don't jump down my throat just how I feel!!

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PramQueen1971 · 24/08/2013 16:17

Could you perhaps let them all catch you shagging your next-door neighbour on the couch when they get home? That'll show 'em!

dexter73 · 24/08/2013 16:17

Why is being hormonal always used as an excuse when someone is being unreasonable?

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chilipeppers · 24/08/2013 16:32

Hahaha both sides are very old men! Might have to find the post man!

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ScooseIsLoose · 24/08/2013 16:36

Who is jumping down your throat? Hmm Yabu

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