to think if he wants tidy and minimalistic then............

[AtYourCervix]

He

A. Shouldn't live with me.

B. Shouldn't live with children/teenagers

C. Should tidy up himself.

YADNBU! My husband sometimes compares our home unfavourably to other people's but he gets extremely short shrift from me.

YADNBU. But I would put point C first, and loudest.

Yanbu!

Craving -that's what he just did.

Bastard.

What these people forget is that they only see other people's houses when they have spent the whole fricking day tidying up because People Are Coming Round.

My ex (for a reason) once launched into a massive go at me that our house wasn't as tidy as the friends we were visiting, and was then made to look at total nob-end (thanks lovely friends!) when they told him it never normally looked like that and they had spent the whole day tidying. Ha.

HTH

My husband always says he wants minimalist. I always reply 'then sell or give away the 1000s of video games and comics you'll never look at again.'

He then goes and shuts up about it for awhile.

He wants it tidy, shove a broom up his arse and give him cleaning wipes. He can do two things at once then.

YANBU. Dh complains the same but we have a 2 year old. Anytime I tidy up she is right behind me making a mess. It's clean but not tidy.
I think they don't appreciate all the 'maintenance' work like laundry and unloading the dishwasher which takes time but doesn't necessarily look like you've done anything.

Constant source of argument unfortunately.

YANBU

I like my stuff around me.

He can live with my DH if he likes. He says similarly stupid things.

I showed him the thread about the woman whose partner was moving in next door to her and he liked that idea very much. We need one tidy house with nothing but golf clubs in it, nextdoor to a home

Hmmm... few too many there.

Could you allocate him 1 room to make as minimalist as he fecking well wants?

If he doesn't bother his arse simply lead him into said room every time he mentions it and silently raise your eyebrow.

That's my kind, everyone should have a say in how they live answer. I'd just throw out 99% of his stuff! Haha ;-)

We do have far far too much Stuff.

But it is Stuff we use. Where are we supposed to put it?

My DP has never talked about wanting minimalism - chance would be a fine thing, that's normally my plaintive cry! .

When we moved this year, I managed to get him to let go of loads of tutt, and I surrupticiously snuck a few "extras" in just for good measure ...

And he's as messy as the rest of us. His shoes are in a heap in the kitchen. He has 3 pairs of birkies, 2 walking bots, trainers and work boots in a pile.

The dog is going to eat them and I will say 'I told you so'.

I hate minimalist anyway, it just feels plain and sterile. If I wanted to live in a hotel I would, as it is I prefer somewhere 'homely' unfortunately DH doesn't agree. We are poles apart on that front.

PMSL ezio

My DH is always moaning at me about the state of the house but a) leaves mess everywhere and b) rarely lifts a finger to tidy/clean it. We both work. I work from home and have been working all summer holidays with all 3 kids at home, fitting my hours in around them and into the evenings. Yet because I'm at home I'm apparently meant to work and tidy at the same time.

I'd say DH is the worst mess offender in our house; he leaves piles of paperwork everywhere, shoes all over the floor, coats and t shirts on the back of chairs, and all kinds of other mess everywhere.

We are the opposite way round. I'm desperate to declutter but DH won't hear of it. He has stacks of old magazines, books, man tins with bits in etc. I'm not perfect but I don't keep everything I ever look at! He swears I'm too fussy and the house is fine but I think it would make cleaning easier if there wasn't a sea of stuff to wade through and rehome all the time.

Agreed

Oh never moans about the house since he does next to nothing I don't think he would dare