aibu about drying dishes or is he?

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fully aware this might just be me but need some perspective! normal Saturday morning me and dh are cleaning/tidying house while ds1 15mo has a nap. dh is doing the dishes while I Hoover, dust etc. now every time he gets to a pot that's too big for the drying rack he calls through asking me to come and dry it. wtf? why do I have to stop what I'm doing to dry his pot? the dish towel hangs by the sink. surely drying a pot is part of the washing up process? is my task less important than his? I don't ask him to come and move things out of the way as I Hoover. grr we have this debate each week - he thinks I have an aversion to drying dishes. I think he's a pita all very lighthearted but would like to know who is bu!

He is! He's doing the dishes so that includes drying up.

Sounds weird . I would ignore him and get on with it.

He is being sooooooo unreasonable.
How can he not see that?
Weirdo.

I am particularly lazy re dishes. If it needs,hand washing then I just put it on the rack to air dry. If its too big for the rack then its cleaned and put on the hob to dry.

Tell him to do his own job. You are doing yours. Or swap jobs.

On another note - you leave your dishes till the weekend?!

he is, if he doesnt like drying pots and who can blame him, tell him to leave them to dry upside down on the draining rack, if he is rinsing them with hot enuff water they will dry v quick.

He is BU. Next time call him each time you need to move an ornament / picture to dust underneath. When he says you're wasting his time - bingo!

thanks guys knew this couldn't just be me when I wash up I usually use one of those tips - hot water rinse then on the hob till I'm done washing up and then dried and put away - rest of the dishes drip-dry.

lol realise now this makes me sound like I have weeks worth of dishes stacked up but no we do brunch on sat so there's usually pots/cooking utensils to wash.

Live is too short to be drying pots/dishes. If it doesn't fit in the rack, I put a tea towel on the side and put the pot on there to dry. To be fair, I'm pretty lazy.

But to answer your question. YANBU. If he wants it done, he should do it. YABU to do it though. Just tell him to do it himself.

Are you me OP?!?

With a house of 5 leaving things to air dry isn't possible and breaking off washing up is a pita so one person washes one dries, they are treated as separate jobs in this house.

I would call for him to move things out of your way, and move them back. He'll soon see!

YANBU......I wash all dishes in v hot water & rinse under hot tap & leave to air dry, then leave big pots to soak while I'm tidying rest of kitchen.

Dishes can be then give a quick swipe & put away leaving the rack for big pans or just swipe with clean dishcloth & leave to air dry.

I would put som music on your headphones & ignore him!

I drip dry everything. Tea towels in our house are for drying hands on.

Tea towel on the side, everything left to drip/air dry until it can be put away.

It's enough of an arse not having a kitchen big enough for a dishwasher without drying everything too!

What I don't get is why you have the debate each week? Have you dried them for him in the past? If it were me I would have told dh to get lost the first time he tried it and that would be the end of it.

I am a SAHM (well sort of) and if DH pulls this shit I do this face and say, "it's amazing how I manage this stuff all by myself in the week with no assistance".

I think DP is leading a double life. He does this all the flaming time.

Mine would do it once before being laughed all the way to the teatowel rail.

I don't ask him to come and move things out of the way as I Hoover

That's where you are failing.

Try it a few Saturdays.