People sticking their fingers in my baby's mouth

[Claricestarling4]

I have a six week old baby and she's my first so I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid or if I'm right to be pissed off with DH about this.

When she was born the midwives showed us that putting a little finger in her mouth can calm her down. We both did this a bit to start with but I have now started using a dummy with her as even though I know we both wash our hands a lot, I still find it a bit icky. However my DH still does it and a week ago at a BBQ I came back from the kitchen to find our friends' teenage daughter with her little finger in my DD's mouth. I grabbed her back straightaway. It transpired my DH had suggested to her that she do it while she was holding her and he and I had a huge row about it when we got home.

Then today, we were at another friend's house and (despite me having put a dummy right in front of him) he put his finger in her mouth in front of their five-year-old daughter, who then did it herself which I didn't realise for a couple of minutes because of where I was sitting - she had obviously seen him doing it and thought it was okay. I was horrified later to see her (the 5 yo) picking at a verruca on her foot.

I'm now livid with my DH, and also completely stressed that my baby is going to have caught the virus from her (I believe it's a strain of HPV). Any opinions or reassurance would be much appreciated. Do I just need to calm down? Or am I right to think no one should ever stick their finger in my baby's mouth? (My DH seems to think it's no big deal).

[poppingin1]

Monsters I said PFB but also that I understood not wanting people outside the absolute immediate family doing this.

Why OP's DH can't do it is strange to me.

Babies need germs.

[nickelbabe]

i wouldn't like it.

it's not PFB - you said yourself you saw a girl pick her feet and use the same finger to poke your child's mouth.

I don't understand why anyone would put a finger in someone else's mouth!!

[Justforlaughs]

I used to do this with my DCs but wouldn't have been happy with anyone else doing so! and I wouldn't dream of doing it to anyone else's baby or allowing one of my DCs put their finger in a baby's mouth.

[Claricestarling4]

Thank you very much to everyone who commented - as I said she is my first so I wasn't sure if I was just being overprotective! Just to clarify, I have no issue with my DH putting his finger in her mouth himself, I just didn't want him to do it in front of children who would then do what kids do and copy him thinking it was the right thing to do. Thanks guys.

[candycoatedwaterdrops]

No, YANBU or PFB. She is still very small.

[seensomuch]

yanbu i would not want anyone sticking their fingers in my childs mouth.

[IneedAsockamnesty]

Other people's fingers in anyone's mouth is gross children especially think of the potential for thread worms

And I am so far removed from any type of precious parenting

[DontWannaBeObamasElf]

The way I see it I don't want any fingers in my mouth so I don't want them in my childs either.

[CreatureRetorts]

Babies that young do not need fingers stuck in their mouths. Their immune systems are not fully developed as yet.

YANBU!

[LostMarbles99]

What is PFB about not wanting random fingers shoved in your baby's mouth?

I have a 7 month old and would be furious if anyone did that to my baby and would be telling them so!

[Bobbins1]

I don’t know if I’m being overly precious and if I’m not-how do I say something without it being awkward?! Friends husband sticks his finger in my 5 month olds mouth when we visit. It just makes me want to grab her away! What do I do?!

[FizzyGreenWater]

Wow, a five year old? Why not ask your DH if he'll make a wee badge to pin to her cardigan 'THREADWORMS HERE PLEASE'

How disgusting.