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AIBU to expect hubby to find out and tell me...

21 replies

trinity0097 · 23/08/2013 19:09

A colleague of mine and friend, but more of a friend of my hubby as they are both rather nerdy, confided in my hubby two nights ago that he was having a first date last night (guy in question has been single for years and we are all desperate for him to find a nice girl!), hubby was to tell no-one, but I caught him texting him and asked what it was about and got it out of him after a few hours! So hubby texted last night to wish good luck for date. Today they have been in contact via text to sort out nerd cinema visit tomorrow. AIBU to expect hubby to have asked how this date went so he can tell me? I had lots of chances to tell people today but didn't and won't tell friend I know either, but I want to know how it went! Other (girl) friends and I were only discussing again our plans to try and get him a girlfriend, so it would save us a bit of work if he had managed it himself!

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mynameisslimshady · 23/08/2013 19:13

Yabu and way too over invested in this guys love life.

TylerHopkins · 23/08/2013 19:14

As a singleton I really hate people wanting to find me a 'nice guy'. You can feel the pity oozing out of them. I feel complete and happy as I am thank you. Maybe this is why he doesn't want you to know.

LoopThePoop · 23/08/2013 19:15

WTF?

Stop at the man you pushy woman.
Your DH and the nerd.

trinity0097 · 23/08/2013 19:16

He would jump at the chance of a relationship.

It's the knowing but not knowing which is making me want to know more!

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greensmoothiegoddess · 23/08/2013 19:18

I'm not sure if you are being intentionally lighthearted - but, lady, you are WAY over the top. Back off and mind your own beeswax.

LindyHemming · 23/08/2013 19:21

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Famzilla · 23/08/2013 19:30

I hope this is a joke. Otherwise you creepy.

ChocsAwayInMyGob · 23/08/2013 19:33

Agree with Famzilla.Grin

You creepy.

meditrina · 23/08/2013 19:35

'hubby'?

YABU

trinity0097 · 23/08/2013 19:35

I didn't pester him to find out initially, I asked him what the text was about, he said he couldn't say. I said was it to do with me, he said no, I said was it to do with work, he said no, that put my mind at rest it wasn't something that was major, so i went back to cooking dinner. then abut 2 hours later after we had been watching something on the tv and not mentioned it at all it he told me out of the blue.

If you as a woman had a female friend who had a first date would you not ask how it went if you were contacting them anyway about something else? I would, but perhaps obviously men on the spectrum don't think like I would! I think I would be peeved if I had had a date or special thing and a friend contact me and not mention it.

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 23/08/2013 19:37

IME, DH's aren't intrusive/don't get important information out of their friends
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ilovesooty · 23/08/2013 19:40

YABU. Nothing to do with you and your husband shouldn't have told you in the first place. Seeing your posts I'm not surprised the poor guy wanted it kept quiet.

ilovesooty · 23/08/2013 19:41

Men on the spectrum?

mynameisslimshady · 23/08/2013 19:45

I, as a woman Hmm ,would ask how it went. However if I thought dh would go and gossip about someone elses date with his friends I wouldn't tell him about it.

NatashaBee · 23/08/2013 19:48

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Dawnywoo · 23/08/2013 19:49

Eh? I'm not sure I really get the problem.

LanguageTimothy · 23/08/2013 19:50

I reallycan't think why the poor guy wanted it kept secret.

Notmadeofrib · 23/08/2013 19:52

I just HATE the term hubby. Sorry couldn't read any further. Shoot me

pianodoodle · 23/08/2013 19:55

What?!

You sound like bloody hard work! Confused

StElmo · 23/08/2013 19:55

You sound exhausting. Are you 12?

ilovesooty · 23/08/2013 20:23

I wonder how many people are prepared to trust the OP with confidential information? Not many I imagine.

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