Where I live you get put in a group with women who had babies in the same month as you, we meet up with the hv every couple of weeks and chat about a topic as a group (weaning/child safety/baby first aid and that sort of thing) We also meet up socially.
On Tuesday it was my turn to make the coffee and cakes, it was lovely weather so we sat outside. That evening I noticed ds was slightly warm. He was 100% ok in himself, no nasty nappies or vomiting or cold symptoms.
I took him to the dr the day after because he had some fairly angry mozzie bites on his leg, the dr looked at him and said he was slightly warm because of the bites and he was fit and healthy (ds sat smiling and giggling at the dr) I asked the dr if I should avoid seeing other babies and ds's elderly great grandparents incase it was something contagious and the dr said no ds was not ill and I couldn't avoid seeing people every time he got bitten and ds is probably slightly allergic to the bites so will often get a raised temp if he gets multiple bites (we live in a country where mozzie bites are a weekly occurance.) The dr talked to me like I was being a silly overly anxious mum, he even said "trust me I have 3 children at home."
That afternoon we had one of these meetings and I went along as the dr had said ds was fine and not even ill never mind contagious, the babies crawled around playing chewing with each other and each other's toys, ds was again 100% well.
yesterday evening and today his temp has been higher, he is still not showing any other signs of illness and the bites have gone right down so I really don't think it is caused by the bites. A friend (in the same group) mentioned her dd had had the 3 day fever illness over the summer (we didn't meet over the summer so ds can't have cought it off her) I consulted dr google and ds's symptoms (fever but well child) sound very like the 3 day fever virus.
I feel so bad that I expossed all those babies to this virus :( I would not have taken a baby with a raised temp to a group unless the dr had specifically said he wasn't ill.
What should I do? we have a facebook group where we chat and arange social events, should I post saying I am so sorry and ds is ill and they should look out for a raised temp in their own baby?
I have lots and lots of anxiety around ds's health especially the possibility of him infecting other children. AIBU to be so worried and feel so bad?