To let him find his own way home?

[GhostsInSnow]

Apologies if this is long, don't want to drop feed.

Let me start by saying I can drive, I have my own small ancient car which covers around 1000 miles a year. I have joint problems which make driving painful for me and I now take diazepam and codeine which I won't drive on because they do have an effect on my reaction times.

Ok. Dh bought a new 10 plate car this time last week. It's developed issues and needed to go back to the garage. Garage is the other side of the city about ten miles away and despite saying in the warranty they would arrange for courtesy cars they say they have none and Dh won't push it.

I agree to pick him up at 10.30am, importantly out of rush hour. Sitting in traffic and constantly de clutching would mean by the time I got there my knee would be like a grapefruit. Added to this there is a new one way which is very confusing by the garage. I've never driven on it myself and rush hour isn't the time I want to test it out. I get worried when I don't know routes well and this has genuinely kept me awake (silly I realise).

The service center closes at 5 but the main garage is open until 8 so I asked Dh if they can leave the keys with the garage and I'll take him about 6ish after rush hour again. He's getting pretty arsey with me at this point and wants me to do both rush hour journeys so he can fetch his car. I explain I'll be in pain, not in the last because I'll have to go all day without my pain killers and on an unfamiliar road system and its no issue to do it out of those times. Finally he barks "let's make it seven then, or maybe eight eh?" to which I lost all interest in helping him whatsoever and told him to catch the bus because I'm done.

He's stomped of ten minutes ago to the garage. Not sure how he's getting back, perhaps he's paying our 20 year old son , who knows but aibu given the problems I have to not collect him during those hours when it can be completely avoided with a little understanding by him?

He's going to sulk all day now.

Lucky you, being married to such an understanding fellow.

Let the bastard walk

When his car comes into it it's like "his precious "
Another blooming hour in the garage car park wouldn't have been an issue and would have made my life so much easier but no, it has to be 5 on the dot.

I'm struggling a lot at present, I have a scoliosis which is starting to give me no end of problems and lots of pain as well as hypermobility which causes issues with my clutch. The aim is eventually to try and save for an automatic car which should help knee joints but I've coped so far by managing (luckily) to organise most essential journeys out of peak times.

You're well within your rights to let him sort himself out!

To be fair, there is no such thing as rush hour in many cities. Rush 4 hour maybe from 3pm - 7pm.
I can see both sides.

I'd definitely let him walk. But aside from that, couldn't he drive your car there so you wouldn't have to do as much driving? (Not that I think you should do it at all now.)

MrsLouisTheroux there certainly is here, there would be a 5 mile stop start dual carriageway journey between 4 - 6pm, followed by navigating the new road layout in the main city which causes congestion and general chaos anyway. Then the same back.
There is no issue with collecting the car after 6, as I say the rest of the garage is open until 8pm its just the service part that closes at 5pm. It's just that DH wants it back on the dot of 5 and isn't willing to wait another hour for me.

MrsReacher yes, he could (and would have) driven me one way but the journey back would still be incredibly busy and I'd still have to come through the new layout, albeit the other way lol.

To put it into context, if I left at 6pm I'd be there by 6.15 and home again by 6.30. If I left at 4.00 as he wanted I wouldn't be there until probably ten to five and certainly couldn't be back home until after 6.