AIBU to want to go back to university?

[ChickOnaMission]

I've been a SAHM for the last 5 years, I went back to work 3 months ago and I'm loving it. The result is I'm more confident, happier and really enjoying life. At the same time my marriage has fallen apart, we're in seperate rooms, which I love, and DH is looking after the kids while working from home. Over the summer holidays he's definitely had the harder side of the bargain but I did it for years.

I've now decided I want to go back to university and do a degree, part time, two evenings a week. It would mean I don't see my kids at all 2 days, term time.

The degree is relevant to my work, will definitely mean more money later and promotions. Our marriage is over, he just doesn't know it yet but I know I'm done with him.

This morning husband has said he doesn't think it's a good idea, kids will lose out, I'm taking on too much and will be tired all the time so kids will suffer me being knackered and moody. AIBU or is he?

For how many years will you be doing your degree - if it's part time it's probably 6, yes? So you need to think of childcare for the next six years. And I guess you've looked into funding and student loans so worked out the cost factors?

But tbh I don't think this is your big question - your marriage is over and you're happy about it but your DH doesn't even know it yet? You just might be focussing on the wrong question, OP.

Is it the studying or the social side of uni you are looking for? If just studying, the Open Uni or othe long distant courses might be worth a look.

It's 4 years, also should have mentioned that for the first 3 months DH will be away working. I have considered childcare, most likely we'll get an Aupair and fees etc not an issue.

He has an idea, we split up but can't move out of house due to tenancy agreement. He wore me down and I agreed to give it another go but I know my feelings haven't changed. Just waiting for him to screw up again (pot & other women)

It is a factor I'll most likely be a single mum before the course is over. Am I being selfish to not see my kids 2 days a week while I study?

Theoneandonlyalpha no not social stuff. I did consider open university but not sure 100% distance learning is for me. Also uni is just around corner from my office, on way home from work.

From your OP, and especially considering fees are not an issue, it seems a no-brainer and you should go for it. How old are your children?

Brightnearly they're 2 & 9

Then all things considered, you should definitely go for it! Good luck!

I think you've already made up your mind.

I say go for it - you will always regret it if you don't.

And the kids will be happier if you are fulfilled and contented.