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To "cash in" all the stag do leniency and tell DH I am going to Bhutan ?

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OhDearNigel · 21/08/2013 22:58

Before i met Dh i was planning a life of single freedom enjoying group adventure holidays in interesting places. That's all gone for a burton now, especially as DH hates "trekking round temples" as he puts it !

Since we got married in 2007 and had Dd, Dh has been on about 5 stag do's of 3-5 days and has been to Romania 3 times, each for 7-10 days. I am more than happy with this, its like a holiday at home for me as i take time off work and generally enjoy myself.

However, the desire to go to places like bhutan, burma, korea still burns strong. Wibu to inform DH that i am intending to spend 2 weeks in bhutan next year ?

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Cakebitch · 22/08/2013 07:36

I did this. Dh got a three day ridiculous trip to latvia on a stag doo, which he didnt particularly enjoy. i got a trip of a lifetime to Tibet.

Snazzyenjoyingsummer · 22/08/2013 07:42

Yes, go.

On a related note, I can't believe that a 3-5 day stag do has now become so common. A lot more people must have more cash and annual leave than I'd have expected. Presumably they're all then having their honeymoons too!

Meglet · 22/08/2013 07:53

Go! I'd love to go to Bhutan.

Then make sure you come back and update us on what you got up to.

travailtotravel · 22/08/2013 08:22

We're just about to go to Ladakh - the only other place that looks like Tibet and Bhutan. Cannot wait.

Went to Burma last Easter - it is probably more sensible to do it more quickly as tourism is taking off and it will soon be like Thailand.

It is cheaper than Bhutan - but I premume you know about the Govt Levvy on visitors to Bhutan (your tour operator pays it but basically it's min $200 per person per day). Because of the levvy it will also not get overun by backpackers as it is too expensive so it will be "safe" for a while. The Bhutan itinerary you mention is the classic one.

If you're looking at either of the two adventure operators who start with an EX you'll be in fairly safe hands.

PM me if you want any more info - there is another operator I'd recommend for Bhutan as well but depends how much cost is a factor.

RichardDawkinsAngel · 22/08/2013 08:36

Go. I spent ten days in Colombia with my sister over Easter. My DH took time off work to look after the kids. I missed them like crazy but had a great time.

I would LOVE to go to Bhutan!

samandi · 22/08/2013 08:58

Oh, I want to go to Bhutan now!

Yes, go, definitely.

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OhDearNigel · 22/08/2013 22:30

Travail, im looking at the adventure company. Used to be travelbag adventures, travelled with them a couple of times

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OhDearNigel · 22/08/2013 22:31

And update, dh said "are you taking madam with you ?" Followed by "fair enough"

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Darkesteyes · 22/08/2013 23:19

I take it the fair enough was due to you pointing out that youve been left at home to care for DD while he was on his stag dos.

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OhDearNigel · 22/08/2013 23:32

Yes !

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Darkesteyes · 22/08/2013 23:58

Cool He should have really realised that on his own though. The fact that childcare is seen as womens work is really deeply ingrained.

picklechops · 23/08/2013 00:04

north korea ?!

I must admit I didn't even know it was possible to travel there!
What would you do? Would you be allowed to sight see at all? I know it's terribly restrictive as a society.

missingmumxox · 23/08/2013 00:28

go for it, but unless Dh sorted out CC before he went I don't see how that is your problem? he is the one dealing with them, he needs to organise it.
However if he did consider CC and make sure it was organised (and not by you) then it is your job to sort it out.

My money is on...that said my DH would handle it, he is no saint but nor am I :) but if I am off somewhere he sorts out the CC, if it is him away, I do, sounds arse about face, but we do that so we know what is happening when in charge, passing on messages leads to mistake and uncertainty.

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OhDearNigel · 23/08/2013 00:50

Darkest eyes, he didnt mean it like that, he was surprised that i wanted to go away without her

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OhDearNigel · 23/08/2013 00:52

Picklechops, it was about 10 years ago when travelbag offered a trip to korea - very much an opportunity to see the last bastion of communism before it fell. They havent done the trip for several years now

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StuntGirl · 23/08/2013 00:56

God I'd love to visit North Korea. Such a secretive and strange place, but you'd never get to see the 'real' N. Korea as a tourist.

Your trip sounds fantastic though, I am v. jealous of you Nigel!

Darkesteyes · 23/08/2013 00:59

My apologies then DearNigel im probably jaded by reading so many threads on here where the Dh tries to wriggle out of childcare Sorry

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OhDearNigel · 23/08/2013 06:02

thats ok, he has his faults but wriggling out of childcare is definitely not one of them !! i think he was quite chuffed at the thought of 7 days daddy and daughter time

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LindyHemming · 23/08/2013 07:08

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dimsum123 · 23/08/2013 07:12

Go for it. Cash in the stag do's as you say. Sounds fantastic, wish I cld come with!

PinkyCheesy · 23/08/2013 07:41

DH went to N Korea this year and loved it. Have a look at www.juchetravelservices.com/this website
NB it is pretty expensive but he said totally worthwhile

Bullygirl · 23/08/2013 10:07

Do it! We can't afford to do it every year but dh and I (married 16years) have taken a few holidays separately and loved it. How old is dd? Just going to school so 6ish? Give her a couple of years then take her too if you can. Encourage her sense of adventure.

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