To go on holiday without the DCs?

[SchrodingersFanny]

My parents had suggested that next year we all go on holiday together, them, us and ds and dd, as well as dsis and her husband and baby. They wanted to go to Greece, to a place they know well.

But we won't be able to afford it by next year, it will be over £2k for us. So it has been postponed until the following year.

Today my parents suggested that they look after dd and ds for us so me and dh could go away somewhere. We haven't been anywhere on holiday for 5 years. Dd is 1 and ds is 4, so they will be nearly 2 and nearly 5.

I trust my parents totally, the kids have stayed there before for 5 days while we did some decorating. But is it wrong to go away on a jolly holiday (we'd probably do a city break) and leave them behind?

Of course it isn't wrong.

I'm not a mother but I bet vast majority of MNers would bite your hand off to take your parents up on this offer.

I will bite your hand off first x

Please ......

Very jealous!

Oh my God, go for it! A city break is just a break, not an extended tour of the Andes. The kids will have a great time.

Go! Go and have some fun and relax. You're children will still have a nice time with your parents, it's really important to have time to yourself.

Your*

Me and my DH were chatting about this the other day. My DD is only 13mo, and we probably wouldn't leave her yet but at 2 I think we'd consider a short break somewhere. My parents completely dote on her, and she loves going there so I'd feel happy with it. If they are happy with your parents, then why not. YANBU.

Go for it. How lovely of your parents to offer and be able to have your dc. And how lovely that your dc will get 5 fab days with their gps. Great for everyone.

If only my mum or ILs were in the position to do the same ...

YANBU

Go and enjoy yourselves, DCs don't enjoy cities until they are much older than 2&5 and 4&7 would be my ideal time for Greece. You need DCs who can potter in a pool for a nice long time for hot places.

What dreadful things do you think will happen to them if you take up your parents' offer? Why are you hesitating

Definitely go . I went when my dc were 3 and 5 when I was away they both had chickenpox.:( I had left them with dear sil who was their babysitter while I was at work. I can only say they are now 21 and 23 and have had no traumatic side effects !!!

I'm not worried really, I suppose I'm worried about being judged. That's silly isn't it.

You will be judged

Judged positively for having the very good sense to take advantage of your parents kind offer to look after your kids for a few days whilst you kick up your heels in Barcelona/Rome/NYC.

As someone who has just returned from a 'holiday' with the dcs I would wholeheartedly say GO FOR IT!!!!

We are both exhausted. The kids are still raring to go. We are considering asking parents to have them for a night so we can actually spend some time together!!!!

I'm another who says go for it! DH and I would love to be able to do it.
They will be fine and you'll have a great time and spend some quality time with your DH which IMO is invaluable when you have DCs.
Have you thought of anywhere to go?

If you don't want to go, do you think they'd look after MY kids so we could...?!

Honestly, I'd bite their hands off for that!

My DP and myself have been very lucky in that for the past 5 years we've been able to go away on holiday each year without our 5 DC. We've also done the odd weekend away without them as well.
They have a great time with their GPs.
Quite a lot of my friends go away without their DC as well.

Yanbu!

Go! Enjoy!

No! YANBU.

My DM looked after DS for me when he was about 7 so DH & I could have a holiday.

It is just as important for you, your DH & your DCs that you & DH have some quality adult time together. It does wonders for your marriage by re-connecting you.

Keeping your marriage alive is really important, not just to you but to your DCs as well.

If you are lucky enough to have parents who you trust to look after your DCs you really should go for it.

In fact, you would be VVVVU not to take up the lovey offer.

Go get looking for somewhere lovely to go!

Go for it!!

My DP never went on holiday with his mum when he was a child, as she said her holidays were her chance to relax and not be a mum for a week.

They have a very good relationship and he has never resented her for it and loved his time with his gps.

We go away for a long weekend every 18 months or so without the kids. I'm not counting the days until the next time - oh no . 7 weeks to go! I've 3 kids 8, 5 and 2, it doesn't even cause me a minutes hesitation.

god i'd love that. i've also got a four year old and one year old. hoping next year for us

My parents went away without us when we were little, for long weekends with their friends. We had a lovely time with granny who came to stay with us, and she spoilt us rotten! We've just been away for a weekend for a wedding, leaving DS with PIL, next weekend we're going to another childfree wedding, leaving DS with my parents. He adores it, they love it and we're so lucky to have that support network. He's 16mo btw.

YANBU each to their own but I would just not enjoy it without DCs at that age. Now with teenagers that is another matter

Go!

Me and dh went away once. I was worried that my 2.5 yr old would fret. Rang from the airport. She was having the time of her life (along with her sister) with my mum who had bought them sweets and promised to take them to the fair lol