To want to ttc even though just booked hols to Spain?

[Lumpybumpymuma]

So, just booked our 'dream' hols to Spain (granted, not everyone else's dream but so far we haven't, as a family, ventured further than Cornwall). Is all inc, next May.

However, both me and DH are feeling very very broody. We have 3 DCs and would like a 4th to complete our family. (6 year age gap between dc2 and dc3 so feel it would be nice for dc3 to have a sibling close in age). I'm on slippery slope to 40 so don't want to wait too long, but if we fell pregnant, say, now, I would be due end of may. Would we be able to bring our hols forward, or postpone? And even if I fell preg in next couple of months it would effect travel....

Arrghhh, I know you will say JUST wait, but I have had 3 mc and I find it hard during my monthly ovulation as it is without knowing we could be making a baby.

^ I am aware I sound like an inpatient loon, but just need your thoughts please.

Just go for it. Me and DH have booked our holiday for next July and we're TTC(however have been for almost 4 years) Just think fuck it I'd rather have a baby than a holiday anyway!

Well I guess the first thing might be to call the travel agent-never thought I'd say that on ttc thread!

Also, what if baby was born early?

We have loads of big weddings next year and if I got pregnant the first month we were trying i would have been due on my best friends wedding day when DH was best man!

I will be 37 weeks on the day now but I don't care. I'm going to be heavily pregnant or overdue or just had the baby for most of them, but we knew that and tbh I wanted a baby more than I wanted to go to a wedding.

We just went with whatever will be will be attitude, and will hope I don't go at 37 weeks this time!

So I say go for it!!!

I'm going to disagree here and say if you wait just three months or even two might work, you'd have to crunch the numbers, then you could try for a baby and may be heavily pregnant on the holiday but you could go, the whole family could have a fabulous time together, you could rest and enjoy the sunshine and the odd glass of wine and be waited on hand and foot. A lovely break for all of you before the new arrival. Then come home and have a gorgeous baby! It sounds fabulous!

I agree with Harder - it'd probably be best to delay by a few months, so you're at most 3-4 months pg when you board the plane. Aside from anything else, I'd be worried that cancelling a "dream holiday" in the event of late pregnancy/complications/early birth would increase the risk of your DC (esp the older ones) resenting the new arrival. Depending on the children and the circumstances involved, forging good sibling relationships can be hard enough when you have age/developmental gaps of 6+ yrs (after all, the difference between DC1/2 and DC4 already adds up to a whole school-aged child) so I would compromise a little in order to avoid aggravating the situation. Also - wouldn't it be lovely for you all to have one holiday together where you can enjoy the relative freedom of having kids who are past the toddler stage, so you're all refreshed before the family dynamic reverts back to working around an infant again?

Sorry to hear about your MC, though - I know it must be hard to be logical in the circumstances . Best of luck for when you do TTC!

We went on holiday when I was 5 - 6 months with ds (second child) and it was really lovely. I was far beyond the morning sickness phase but not so enormous I felt like a lumbering walrus in the pool. And such a lovely "last hurrah" for us as a family of 3!

Are you already taking folic acid? If not, then you should take it for 3 months first anyway. Personally I'd start trying (really hard) in November.