Dp and i are childless. since I met dp two years ago, we've always spent Christmas (e.g. The meal and evening buffet) with his family.
We do always spend a few hours on the morning with my
Mum, then return home for a few hours before going on to dp's parents.
Now last year, my mum was alone for the majority of the day as her husband was at work, and this year may be the same. I've raised the idea of having Christmas at my mums this year and he wasnt keen at all. I don't blame him really. My mother is toxic and dp dislikes her for the way she uses me. She's a very selfish person, and all the past years I've spent Christmas there, prior to meeting dp, it's been very boring. She hogs the tv remote and barely says a word all day. Dp's parents is more exciting. They talk to me, and make Christmas day really family orientated, but of course they are the in laws and I can stand them in doses of about 2 hours. A whole 8 hours on Christmas day gets too much and I end up dreading the next
In an ideal world, dp and I would visit each of our families In the morning, then go off home in the afternoon, and have our dinner just the two of us, then dp would go to work in te evening and I can pig out all alone...bliss! But dp's brother died a few years ago on Christmas day and it would absolute tear them apart if dp wasn't there. On the other hand, my mum is going to be alone, but the thought of spending it with her makes me feel like I'd rather eat my own vomit.
What can I do?