Well not that rudely lol, I insist on a night or two where bf either goes home early or doesn't come round, as a single mum with no family help and no spare cash to pay a babysitter I until I met my bf used my evenings when the children are in bed to relax and have some me time. Usually a glass of wine with the tv off or catching up the soaps or reading my book, its peaceful and I found it my coping mechanism to getting through the week it would only be once or if I was lucky twice because normally evenings are spent catching up on housework.
BF is one of those people who doesn't like his own company in the respect he prefers to be around people he doesn't like silence so doesn't understand why I like that odd night, though he does agree he can see it does me the world of good.
I cant do those things when he is here because he talks non stop lol and he doesn't live here obviously so has nothing to do plus with work and the children our time together is limited so when he is here I prefer to actually spend the time with him, but because we spend so little time together he gets upset when I do want the odd night to just wind down.
aibu to want this and insist on it? I actually don't know if Iabu or not so am willing to accept maybe I am.