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AIBU?

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to have another baby now for practical reasons?

38 replies

CuteFeet · 18/08/2013 23:00

I have 3 kids aged 9,5 and 14 months. I would like one more child and recently got my period back after having dd whichwas a shock as it took up to 3 years with the others because of bf hence my childrens age gaps. Naturally it's made me wonder about dc4. I'm currently completing training for my much longed for career but had planned not to begin it til all dc are at school. Wibu to try for/have dc4 now for practicality reasons (ie because I'll get to be home with them now but not if I waited, because it wouldn't affect my career etc) Dh works long hours so everything falls to me really including this decision as ultimately it's me who has to cope. In an ideal world I'd have more quality time with dc3 first before dc4 but practically I think it could be now or never. AIBU?

OP posts:
StuntGirl · 19/08/2013 09:23

I think you'd be out of your tiny little mind to have another baby.

Trills · 19/08/2013 09:32

What makes you think it will be "now or never" if you are not yet 28?

samandi · 19/08/2013 09:42

Curiosity got the better of me and I checked the OP's previous posts.

Sorry OP but if this is for real you have to be a moron to have another baby with this man right now. What the hell is "practical" about having a baby you can't afford, with someone who also can't afford it, when you aren't living together and you resent the fact that he does * all when it comes to looking after the baby that already exists? You cannot provide a stable family home for the family you already have and thinking of having another baby is incredibly stupid and selfish.

samandi · 19/08/2013 09:43

does f**k all when it comes to the baby that already exists, that is!

StuntGirl · 19/08/2013 09:58

You're allowed to say fuck sam Grin

Elsiequadrille · 19/08/2013 10:03

I wouldn't have another baby just yet, not in your position. Would get started on your career first, most definitely.

Elsiequadrille · 19/08/2013 10:03

I don't know about any of your other threads, would add. Just the info from the OP.

samandi · 19/08/2013 10:27

StuntGirl - thanks, wasn't sure :-) even though i'm sure i must have seen the word and all its variants many times here

does FUCK all, that is!

ahhhhhh, that feels better

DoJo · 19/08/2013 11:25

It would be a shame to subject another child to the insecurity and lack of stability that seems to be a feature of your life with your 'partner'.

ubik · 19/08/2013 11:29

I've no idea how you start career after having 4 children unless you have alot of disposable income. Four children are really, really expensive

PumpkinPie2013 · 19/08/2013 14:23

I also remember your previous post and sorry but YABU to think of having another child given the circumstances with your partner.

I think you should do the training and start your career and sort things out for your exsisting children before thinking of having another.

You say you are not yet 28? You have plenty of time to have another child later on if you wish.

StuntGirl · 19/08/2013 18:15

StuntGirl - thanks, wasn't sure :-) even though i'm sure i must have seen the word and all its variants many times here

does FUCK all, that is!

ahhhhhh, that feels better

Swear away my dear, there's much worse said on here Grin

FutTheShuckUp · 19/08/2013 18:43

Seriously, get a grip. I work with families everyday who have issues due to breeding with feckless losers first and thinking later. Having kids is not something that should be given as little thought as booking a trip to pontins

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