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to ask what an emotional affair is

15 replies

iyuo · 18/08/2013 21:18

I?ve namechanged for this as it doesn?t just involve me.

My little brothers girlfriend text me last night to go for a drink this afternoon. When I got there I bought her drink and as soon as I put down she became very hostile. She accused me of having an ?emotional affair? with him. I had no idea what she was talking about (I?d never even heard the term before and genuinely pleaded ignorance) and this seemed further irritate her but she continued to become increasingly more aggressive as the ?conversation? continued. However I quickly finished my drink and left, she spoke to me as if I was having a real affair with him.

I?ve googled it and I still don?t really understand what one is, DP thinks she is just a insecure lunatic and is stirring trouble (she did choose to meet me at the same time as Tottenham were playing ensuring my brother wasn?t there). From what I can tell it seems to be something where one person confides in another. My brother is very close to me, he does seeks me out for advice on his problems and issues (some of which are trivial but he is only 19yo so I don't mind really) and has told me things that no-one else knows about him and his life but I don?t understand what an ?emotional affair? really is or what I?ve done wrong if anything.

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meditrina · 18/08/2013 21:22

Confiding in a sibling isn't an EA. Unless she is accusing him of incest.

jacks365 · 18/08/2013 21:23

She's being idiotic beyond belief, he's your brother of course you are close. An emotional affair is where you get too close to an inappropriate person, siblings do not count.

wharrgarbl · 18/08/2013 21:26

What the what? You can't have an emotional affair with your brother - unless she thinks you're both incestuous! She sounds bonkers.

MrsLouisTheroux · 18/08/2013 21:26

Oh dear. This doesn't sound good. An emotional affair is when your lives become entwined to such an extent that the relationship is as close and romantic as any physical relationship ( but obviously without the physical contact)

He is your brother, you are close and she is nuts.

iyuo · 18/08/2013 21:30

Right, good to hear she is being ridiculous as I had literally no idea what she was talking about at the time and was quite aghast by the tone and language.

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MrsLouisTheroux · 18/08/2013 21:34

Talk to you brother and let him know what happened and what was said.

McNewPants2013 · 18/08/2013 21:38

You can't have an EA with a brother.

iyuo · 18/08/2013 21:38

MrsLouisTherou- I will unfortunately he will be drunk at the moment having spent the afternoon in a pub watching the football.

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TroublesomeEx · 18/08/2013 21:39

Yes an Emotional Affair is relationship without the sex where the people involved convince themselves they are not doing anything wrong because there is no sex but where sex is often on the minds of those involved.

You can't have an emotional affair with your sibling!

thebody · 18/08/2013 21:43

you need to warn your brother he had a bunny boiler as a girl friend.

iyuo · 18/08/2013 21:53

thebody- Yeah, I've always thought she was a little odd tbh.

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Reality · 18/08/2013 21:58

An Emotional Affair is what cheaters admit to to start with, before you catch them out about the actual shagging...

Anyway, she is insanio in the brainio.

ilovesooty · 18/08/2013 22:03

She sounds more than a little odd to me.

WMittens · 18/08/2013 22:03

An emotional affair is where you get too close to an inappropriate person, siblings do not count

I'd say that would be extremely inappropriate Wink

iyuo · 18/08/2013 22:14

Reality and ilovesooty- Definately

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