So it was DP's birthday. His parents, who live an hour away, hadn't mentioned anything about doing anything for his birthday (eg coming to see him or us going out for dinner etc) and DP was feeling a bit down about it (there's a bit of an undercurrent at the minute of him being ignored in favour of his sister) so we decided to invite his Mum and Dad round for dinner and we would cook for them, they accepted, all good. We don't do dinner party type affairs often (we're not great cooks yet)so we were quite looking forward to it.
We were cooking paella so went and bought all the ingredients, pulled out the dining table so all 4 seats could be used (small flat), set it all up nicely and started cooking.
Doorbell goes and in comes his Mum, Dad and sister. There was no mention of his sister coming, either when we invited them or them maybe giving us a heads up that they were bringing her, first we knew is her arriving in our door with a face on her.
I was really annoyed, obviously said hello and was pleasant etc but when DP and I went into the kitchen to finish cooking I got myself in a bit of a flap that our evening was a bit ruined. We only have 4 seats at the table, now there were 5 of us. We have no spare chairs. Only had 4 nice wine glasses and 4 nice bowls in the set. And we'd only really bought enough ingredients for 4. DP just said it didn't matter, we'd just eat on our laps on the sofa and someone could have a shit bowl, which yes, we could, but it wasn't what I'd planned for the evening. But ah well, I got over it.
Next thing his sister comes in and says she tired as she was out on a night out last night so can she go and have a sleep in our bed? DP looks taken aback and goes in to our room to give it a quick tidy and then I follow him in in a kind of "WTF!?" way, saying I'd rather she didn't sleep in our bed when we've not had the opportunity to change the sheets etc and that's a bit weird, no? So he says to her she can just sleep on the sofa and we finish making dinner. Which she does, beside MIL and FIL, who seem totally nonplussed by this.
We then dish up dinner and take it through to eat off our laps and then SIL takes a bowl, looks at it, turns her nose up and says "no offense, I mean it looks lovely and all, but I'm not hungry", picks out some of the meat and then pushes it away. DP takes it once he's finished his and finishes it.
About 20 minutes after dinner, FIL says "right, we best go and get this one (SIL) home" and they leave.
SIL is 23 if that makes a difference.
They didn't get DP a birthday present either.
AIBU or is this all a bit weird?
I probably overreacted to not being able to have a nice sit up meal (though not in front of anyone other than DP obviously) but I was just so disappointed that I'd tried to cook a nice dinner for them for the first time and it was all ruined.