To not do a 4th birthday party?

[softlysoftly]

The last 3yrs have had a core group of "friends through kids". DD1 plays with them twice a week.

I invited them all to dd2s small 1st bday party, everyone accepted only 2 turned up was gutted. Got varying shit post event excuses but I let it go.

DD1 turns 4 soon I thought I would msg friends yesterday to give 2 (small) party options and dates. Everyone has seen it no one has replied. Im wobbling today. They all go to school this year bar her and I feel like they might just not be arsed about her now which is cruel tbh.

I want to think fuck it and not do anything with other kids but dd1 has been talking about all her friends at her party for a year she's going to be gutted and that hurts.

Wibu not to do a party? Aibu getting angry today should I give them another day or 2 to reply?

Aibu to fucking hate the birthday/friends/small child relationships already for how much they hurt when it wouldn't bother me if it was done to me rather rather than my child?

It was only yesterday. Some people are just a bit slow to reply.

I don't even understand the need for pre school parties.

Agree with Motorway, it was only yesterday - give the poor buggers time to think about it before going off on one!

My DC are about-to-turn 5 and 2 and neither has ever had a kids party. DS1 is only starting school 3 days before his birthday so won't know anyone yet. We gave him the choice of birthday party or trip to Legoland - Legoland won. No kids party here this year!

''They all go to school this year bar her and I feel like they might just not be arsed about her now which is cruel tbh.''

Is it cruel? Or does it actually make sense?

It hasn't been long, give them a chance to reply. And if they don't, I'm afraid it's just one of those life lessons that your DD will surely get over.