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To poo in a public toilet?

72 replies

ThePortlyPinUp · 18/08/2013 00:08

Can't be arse to name change so here goes,

We've been out to our local social club for the evening, I went to the toilet and couldn't help but poo whilst I had a wee. My friends dc's (age 9-10) made a comment when I rejoined the table and asked if I'd had a poo, they made a bit of a song and dance about it all and I felt embarrass but brazened it out and said that at least I'd used the toilet and not shit on the table which I'm fairly sure would be anti sociable. Best friends do then took the piss too, so an ibu by using the public convience when I had no other option?!

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ComtesseDeFrouFrou · 18/08/2013 10:04

It's ridiculous, isn't it?

It's the one thing that demonstrates that humans are all completely the same underneath and we go all coy about it. I don't really want to discuss it with anyone, but we all go, so what's the big deal?

Coconutty · 18/08/2013 10:04

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DragonsAreReal · 18/08/2013 10:06

I think public toilets if you have to go you have to go but work toilets where there is only one toilet and staff have to get changed in that toilet to you should shit at home before you come to work URGH.

One woman has her routine fucking shit at 25 past 9 every morning, I start work at half 9 but we have to be in 5 minutes before to get changed, if I'm ever one minute behind schedule (and I use public transport) I have to get changed in her poo particles stink. I don't have a choice or anywhere else where I can get changed either. She starts work at 8 surely she can poo at home first.

Iamsparklyknickers · 18/08/2013 10:12

Dragons personally I can't poo to order and if I need to go at work I will. There's a toilet and that's what it's there for, you wouldn't appreciate me farting my way through the day or doubling over with cramps.

If you're using public transport you've already been immersed in far more poo particles and worse on your way in - don't stress it (and ask for air freshener in the loos or invest a quid at pound land)

Fairylea · 18/08/2013 10:12

This reminds me of a funny story actually... where I used to work there was a woman who always seemed to do absolutely huge poos in the toilet and they never seemed to flush well. We all knew it was her because it was a small office and you get to know who is in and out of the toilet.

Anyway one day I went in after her and the pan was clear, I sat down and had a wee and then when I got up I flushed and the whole thing filled with water and back floated her massive, massive poo.

I then had to tell my office manager about the toilet being blocked, knowing full well he would think it was my huge poo floating about there.

I was so embarrassed. I did have a giggle to myself though.

CecilyP · 18/08/2013 10:21

Of course YANBU.

They're toilets; its what they're for. I can't believe your friends didn't immediately tell their children off for even mentioning it. So they were very unreasonable to go on about it - how rude!

DragonsAreReal · 18/08/2013 10:21

I don't see why she can't wait till after I have gone in and got changed first.

MsVestibule · 18/08/2013 10:21

Dragons most people can't poo to order!!! I doubt she thinks 'Ooh, I think I'll save this one up until I get to work'. I can appreciate that it's not terribly pleasant for you, but there's absolutely nothing you can do about it about from buying an air freshener, holding your delicate nose while you spray it and wait 30 seconds outside the toilet while it works its magic. HTH.

DragonsAreReal · 18/08/2013 10:24

She does save it for work though! She is proud of the fact she gets paid to shit! Tells everyone about it and recommends we do the same!

MsVestibule · 18/08/2013 10:30

If she's so open about her pooing habits, ask her to hang on for 10 minutes every day. Or have you done that already? Not something I'd normally feel comfortable asking somebody to do, but in these circumstances...

I can't believe some of the conversations I have on here Grin.

DragonsAreReal · 18/08/2013 10:36

I don't come in the same time every day so I can't really ask that. I might start dropping a few very heavy hints and spraying loads of body spray before entering the loo.

Iamsparklyknickers · 18/08/2013 10:38

Sorry Dragons, but as it's primarily a toilet I think her right to poo trumps your need to use it as a changing room - it could be argued you're the one using it inappropriately.

(I'm kidding - sort of Wink).

Cheerymum · 18/08/2013 10:44

My sister once gave me a medical leaflet that included the words "never resist the urge to stool"!
Made us crack up, but it's true to say that if you want a healthy bowel habit, not a constipated, pile - inducing one, the best thing is to find a suitable place to go when you need to LIKE A PUBLIC TOILET FGS.
Second the poster who said that's a perfect opportunity to say "did you mean to be so rude?" - will keep that up my sleeve for my own or other people's kids when they come out with unacceptable stuff like that.

PosyNarker · 18/08/2013 10:45

Wow people really think you shouldn't shit in a particular toilet? Really?

I have IBD. It's totally under control right now but during a flare? I'm sure people would prefer I took a dump in the work toilets than the fucking office floor Hmm.

OP YANBU but your friends are for not telling their kids off. Dragons YA also BU (poo particles ffs?) but to be fair your pooing colleague sounds like a bit if an arse, so to speak Grin

Sorry as someone with a non-visible poo related condition , who's had to tolerats a shedload of comments, I can be a bit militant about my right to poo Grin

ivykaty44 · 18/08/2013 10:51

gosh your friends need to get out more...

Weener · 18/08/2013 10:51

What? 'Poo particles'?? FFS. It's a toilet. It's for pooing in. End of.

Inertia · 18/08/2013 10:52

I'd have told the child that it's considered bad manners to discuss other people's vathrpom use in public . And said the same to her dp , who frankly needs to grow up.

Inertia · 18/08/2013 10:54

And for people moaning about colleagues using the loo at work when you get changed - the solution is to petition management for a separate changing room.

BlehPukeVomit · 18/08/2013 10:58

The only embarrassing thing was the bad behaviour of the OPs friends DCs. I would have been mortified if my DCs had made a comment like that.

BeaLola · 18/08/2013 10:59

Your friends DC were rude & your friends worse as adults for not speaking to them about their rudeness.

Reading through some of the comments on here I am Shock that people appear to only poo in their own loo - I went out yesterday to London with Ds and DH and whilst not all places have the greatest loos you can't hold onto it ? How do you manage or do you just never go far from home ???

DragonsAreReal · 18/08/2013 11:04

I hardly ever poo anywhere but my own house, I'm used to pooing in the morning or at night. If I can't hold it I do the poo flush and then wipe and flush which means theres no smell!!

pigletmania · 18/08/2013 11:14

Yanbu At all, tats what toilets are there for. The children were incredibly rude and so was their mother, who should not have joined in and pulled them up on it.

TheMagicKeyCanFuckOff · 18/08/2013 11:17

I poo and wee in public toilets because they're toilets so made for that.

LongGoneBeforeDaylight · 18/08/2013 11:22

YANBU. But I don't understand - when you got back to the table how did they guess you had pood??

Yonihadtoask · 18/08/2013 11:26

I also want to know how the children knew??

YANBU btw/

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