My DD age 7, 8 next week had an altercation with a child in her year group, L 8 age 9 next month. There are 11 months between them.
L is very much PFB and only. My DD is the third out of 4 DCs I am bringing up. I am very aware that the truth is a fluid thing and not worth falling out with adults about.
I was out for lunch with friends. Came home to DD in floods of tears and DP angrilly waiting for the 'threatened' parents (DD is his PFB).
DD says she has retaliated to Ls hitting and kicking her with a punch to the face. She feels it was the only thing that would stop L from hurting her. Mt DS 54 weeks younger, would rather throw her to the crocs than agree with her, tells the same story! DD says that Ls parents are going to come and tell her off and have a go at her, the same as they did outside. DDs words 'They were right in my face, telling me to leave L alone and that the are coming up to talk to you'
L runs past my house. I go out to try to talk to her and find her coming in my gate.
I asked L why she is here and she says 'to say sorry'. I allow her in and call DD to accept the apology, which she did. L admitted she hit DD first and DD retalitated.
I am asuming Ls parents heard a bit, had a go at DD, then heard the full story later.
Considering they were 'in dds face' threatening to come up here and that was what really upset her, AIBU to think they should be the ones to say sorry to my DD, as well as L