That this just proves a point?

[CunningAtBothEnds]

As many of you do, I lurk as well as post, and seem to have fits of posting more frequently. Currently I'm on the iPad meaning I can check my pms as they won't load on my phone...

Anyway during course of the check I find a PM dated end of July, being condescending at best, passive aggressive more than likely. Have duly reported. However as it was in response to a particular thread.. AIBU to think that PM-ing is a bit sly, and not on, as if your comment was defensible surely it should be done on the thread to which it relates? which would of shown on my phone and allowed me to remember wtf the thread was about, and respond appropriately I would not do this as I have the courage of my convictions until someone wiser than myself comes along and corrects me

I agree with your op but don't quite understand the title.

Proves what point?

Well primarily that I cant title a thread got distracted! (I cant actually remember which point but im sure there is one!)

I fully agree, sly and unpleasant!! My view is that PM ing should only be used when you are trying to help or be helped by another. Personal messaging should not become an attack in any way of another person or their views.

What are you going on about?

What point does it prove?

Whoever sent you the PM obviously wanted you to read it, otherwise why would they send it? I don't think it's sly, it's what the PM function is for.

I have only been PMed twice. I feel a bit invisible.

I agree with you though. It would never occur to me to PM anyone. What I have to say, I say on a thread.

Just as a matter of interest, was it the thread started who PMed you?

Hot cross so you believe the PM function is meant to be a way to be slyly argumentative?

I personally only use it to offer help. To each their own!

Sleep deprivation has robbed me of my point... Whoops

Starter not started

I PM when I want to give support but do not want to get in to a bun fight, or when a supportive comment is likely to be lost among other more negative ones. I do not PM to be sly or have a go, that is not on.

Bowlers that may have been my point I think, that I can't remember the thread so do not know, but don't think so

Luckily I have never had a horrible pm but I can see why you are annoyed at it.

Any arguement someone has with you should be done out in the open on a thread, not privately. You are not allowed to personally attack someone on a thread so why would someone think it was ok in a pm?

You reported a pm for being condescending? Bloody hekk, just delete it if you dont like it! This isnt school.

As in don't think it was the OP. If memory serves everyone was disagreeing with the post. PM was defending what was said, attacking my response, but I don't see why it was PM.. Or rather I can infer why

Mamma I've never thought of doing that. That's interesting....

I hadn't looked at is an extra vote of confidence. On a thread i say what I have to say, say it again if I'm supporting the OP but no one else is (happens a bit!), but then leave it as there is no point saying it a third time.

No,bottom I reported it for being an underhand response, that was unnecessary. Genuinely unsure as to what MNHQ will make of it, but my thinking is if the PM function is used for such it will degenerate possibly into nastier stuff.. Which whilst it wouldn't bother me, may bother others who are perhaps dealing with more...

I'm useless with PMs! Can never find the wee envelope. I currently have about 10 that I haven't read. I wished there was a pop up or something that screams at you makes it obvious when you have a message.

I don't think posting nasty messages - either private or on a thread - is on at all. Ignore and report.

I had a very odd pm after posting on a pubic hair thread

If I get another nasty one I will c and p it for all to see, so be warned people!

I got one calling me a C**nts after an abortion thread - which was nice !

I tend not to notice them much - although I have been in touch with a lovely old mate via PM (you know who you are!)

I only ever get nice PMs. Not often though.

And I'd never PM someone to have a go.

Oh give over, you reported it? Unless it was being personally abusive to you just delete and ignore. Goodness me.

You've got ten Ewe?

here. How d'you get so many?

How nasty does one have to be to send someone a pissy pm.?

Ignore them, its the best way to piss a dickhead off.

I've been on MN for 2 years (including NC's) & have never had a PM, sob

Yay, thanks Valium

PM to attack is bullying! That's shocking!

I get PMs from time to time, people looking for support, or just a how are you PM for those I haven't seen for a while.

I think the Guidelines ought to be amended to clearly state that any agressive/unpleasant or threatening PM won't be tolerated. We won't tolerated cyber bullying of our DC, we should expect the same here.