Have name changed in case I'm recognised. So my DD is 9 and for her age has quite a strong sense of herself and is becoming quite an individual. When it comes to choosing clothes she hates following what everyone else is wearing and likes to pick out things she likes not because they are fashionable. She's a very outgoing personality and is well liked amongst her peers.
Anyway she has a friend who I would say is not as outgoing but a lovely personality but quite shy. My DD has been going to a summer scheme over the summer whilst I've been at work. This friend goes too. For the past few weeks my DD has been quite down but very reluctant to tell me whats wrong, until yesterday when she came in absolutely FULL of rage, which is not like her at all. It turns out that her friend has basically copied my daughters wardrobe, bought the same bag, personalised her converse in exactly the same way and even has the same cover for her ipod. My DD has enough, especially as there was an event on yesterday and this friend wore what my DD said she was going to wear and people made the twins comments!
Now I can see why my DD is angry but I think it's a huge compliment that this friend is copying her and have told her this. I also said to bear with the situation as her friend will grow out of it and will find her own confidence and not feel the need to copy others ideas, they are only 9 FGS! My DD was livid at my viewpoint and does not get that I can't just tell this girls mum to get her to stop it. She now wants nothing to do with this friend and it causes headaches as there are outings and activities arranged. I just keep repeating my point and not deviating from it and refusing to go out and buy her new trainers and a bag!
Just to point that this is out of character for my DD as she hardly ever loses her temper and strops so it must be really bothering her. We are at stalemate aren't we 
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