To worry about my marriage?

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No major upset but just a serious of minor niggles over childcare, housework, generally knackered with two dcs under five, two full time jobs and no time for each other. So today I have PMT and had a long and challenging day with the dcs but I still manage to ask DH how is day was etc and try to make an effort but I get nothing back. No kindness, no question about my day. We went to a friends tonight for drinks and just as we were leaving and I am making polite but boring chat, I swear I say DH roll his eyes as he said 'that's like discussing bus times'. Am I over reacting to think this is unkind? I told him I in a calm way (not drunken) and he's now gone off in a huff to the spare room. Contempt is one of the bad signs isn't it? I am really, really worried and sensitive about this as my parents have a dreadful marriage and I lived it growing up. Am I being daft? What can I do?

Anyone?

You may want to try Relationships. I've seen good advice and experiences shared on there.

Thanks Garcia. Will try there.

Not tonight, but you should have a good chat with him.
It's not on, it is rude and disrespectful.
You need a plan. Don't blurt stuff out and 'make a scene', put the cards on the table and set specific goals.
Next time he does that in public, put him in his place swiftly and calmly.

What you can do is talk to him about your feelings.

If he doesn't respect your feelings then the only thing I suggest in seeing relate

Didn't want to read and run - tonight's situation sounds horrible but there is nothing unsalvageable in what you describe. You are in no way doomed to relive your parents' situation.
I am definitely a believer in taking proactive steps to help strengthen relationships before/without reaching a crisis point, and it sounds as though you are minded the same way. My husband and I are trying to improve things between us at the mo because we know the imminemt arrival of our twins, whilst hugely exciting, is going to take (is already taking?) its toll on us as a couple.
Talk to him tomorrow, tell him you love him, tell him you recognise that all the stresses of children and work and everything are making life and your relationship more difficult, and ask him how he feels. Suggest that you set aside some time to really listen to each other and come up with ideas as to how you could feel closer to each other, and see what response you get. Fingers crossed he responds positively xx

Contempt is a thing yes. But only you know if it's a thing in your relationship right now. DH and I have had a similar exchange, but he apologised the next day and we both started making more of an effort. We forgot how to talk to one another, I think. We started talking to each other like we were other people, IYSWIM.

Talk to him tomorrow. Tell him you miss him (if you do). See what he says.

Being a scary crazy woman has got its advantages. Just related your events to my husband who said: it's disrespectful, but maybe there were circumstances (him being tired/drunk/was it a joke amongst food old friends etc)You wouldn't send me to the spare room though, I'd probably be hanging by my balls in the shed for it.