To have no sympathy with people who play their lives out on Facebook text etc

[Primadonnagirl]

I obviously have no issue with social media as such otherwise I wouldn't be on here but I do get exasperated with people who post about relationship problems and say things like "he text xxxxx so I sent back xxxx" or " she's said xxxx on Facebook"! I just think for gods sake grow up and actually talk to each other. I know a couple whose entire break up was played out on Facebook..and these were responsible adults with kids.

Feckin' typos!

I have never seen this on FB.

YNBU. Gets a bit tiresome when most of them are back together a few days later after some of these facebook public Breakups ~

I have a woman on my fb who I can't bring myself to de-friend.

She has three kids to different men, between 10 and 5, none of whom see their dads. None of the dads pay support, but she doesn't need their stinking cash anyway. She spends her days cleaning and then chooses which takeaway to have for tea, with the final decision always posted on the book (as in literally every night).
She has recently met the love of her life (cue lots of posts about how much she loves him, lots of stickys with puke-worthy snippets of wisdom about love). She is currently trying to get a swap for a four bed council house so that she has room to move in her oh and his three kids, who he has custody of after their mum ran off to Spain last year.

Last month she discovered she was pregnant and of course announced it on the book immediately. However, her oh has just been sentenced to four weeks at Her Majesty's Pleasure for pissing on a display of fizzy drinks in the local supermarket and causing criminal damage.
Currently her fb is taken up with a count-down of when her oh will be coming home, because she 'can't live without him'.

I am unable to remove her as a friend. I just can't. It's like the Worlds Worst Soap and I need my guilty fix.

YY afromum, my DSis did the vaguebook thing recently, half of her acquaintance started hunning and xxxxing though she didn't post any details (possibly because the substantive issue was very minor). A few days later she contacted me miffed because I hadn't responded, she had ensured I saw the status by texting me telling me to look at it. I told her that if she wanted to tell me something she should do, not post attention seeking crap to an audience of nearly 900. She isn't impressed!

i hate the niceness after the break up , are you ok baby , it was all for the best , hope you are happy ,then 2 days later back in a relationship , so boring and cringey .

As with all these things, if your friends are the type to do this then this is what Facebook will bring to your life. I think most of us know one person like this, but secretly enjoy spectating on their drama and self-obsessed witterings because it is kind of funny, it confirms our existing opinion of them and (in my case at least) they are tangential enough to my life to not have to deal with them very often in real life. If your whole Facebook is populated by tossers like this and it actually does annoy you, then either you need new friends or a closer acquaintance with the 'hide' and 'de-friend' buttons.

BIL is like this, cant bring myself to defriend even though I know he wouldnt notice.

His life over the last 5 years or so has been a bungee relationship with his ex, they were on and off again several times a week at one point. Then she started slagging him off after he left (for the woman he had been cheating with) as he didnt see the DD, and he was slagging her back because she wouldnt let him see the DD if he was with OW because the OW was a better mother than his ex. Then they moved to the other end of the country hundreds of miles away and he was slagging his ex off as she wouldnt put their under 10 year old on a train on her own to visit him. She was slagging him off as he refused to pay maintenance, never mind the train fare. And so it went on.

Then we got the blow by blow of his bungee relationship with the OW being on/off/on/off/seeing someone else/on and then fnally off. Now we are getting him slagging off both his ex's and the ex of his new GF who is moving out of her home to be with him after their affair. Apparently her ex is a cunt because he wont let her take all the furniture from their home so BIL has to buy beds for her kids and the ex has a better telly than BIL so he really wanted it (as well as his wife and kids presumably).

Oh and he calls his DD his "ikkle pwincess" on FB. I kid you not.

Details changed to protect the innocent.

I'm old fashioned too. Dignity and privacy for personal and family life, etc. I also think a case of empty vessels make most noise.

What puzzles me though, is how they have time for FB? I just about cope with email, phone and text (and watching In The Thick Of It).

But, also, how do people who read others FB posts, find time to read??

The same way that people who find time to MN find time to read.

I use FB and MN and read around 100 books a year. Most people manage both.

And what's.with the deleting all the posts so it don't look bad.when they're being cringeworthy lovey dovey again? It doesn't make them unseen ~

one of my fb friends (an old school friend) has been playing out her hideous divorce with daily updates on facebook slagging her H off blind and talking about how she hates him and has met someone else etc

all her kids are on there :( (teens)

These sound great, I need more interesting FB friends.