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To want to be able to enjoy time off at home

32 replies

laura2323 · 16/08/2013 16:50

I have been off work since February due to severe morning sickness. I was a self employed taxi driver and it was unsafe for me to continue, then insurance company (who i also rented car off so they had to be told situation) said was unsafe for me to continue to work whilst pregnant so have been unemployed since then. But that's another story.

The reason why I'm posting today is i am getting seriously fed up with my next door neighbour, he is a gay man aged about 50s. I have lived in this house (my fiancé's house) for 5 years now, it is a semi detached, and since then the NDN has had about 5 different partners. And with each new partner has gutted and redecorated the house. Every day is drilling, banging, shouting etc. I cannot hang washing out on the line as it gets covered in dust, nor open the windows for the same reason. I also cannot sit outside while they work as they are using strong smelling solvents (pregnant and asthmatic! not a good combination) I have spoken to them about it before in the past as I was in university so needed to study at home. This fell on deaf ears and I kept asking them to give me at least 1 or 2 hrs a day peace. Nothing.

I've complained to the council about then but as our houses are our own and not rented the council seem very reluctant to get involved. They are making noise constantly from 8am-10pm on the dot. I have kept log books and have recordings of the noises. I also have photographs of the building work being done.

Another thing is they have 2 small dogs, I don't know what breed they are, but they are constantly yapping away. They never take them for walks. They leave them outside in the rain at night, leaving them to bark all the time. I can't see any shelter for them in the garden at all or food/water bowls.
I rang the RSPCA about an injured stray cat that had been sheltering in my garden and the officers witnessed the building work ad heard the dogs yapping. They have had words with the NDN but it is getting worse.

He does not work, one of them is registered disabled but I do not know why, he is up ladders and does the majority of the work. Everyday there are vans in the road delivering and collecting parcels.

I am just worried for when the baby comes that I will not be able to cope. I have suffered with depression in the past and am seeing a mental health team. (health visitor has also logged a complaint about NDN and the noise).
I am at my wits end and do not know what to do.

Does anyone have any advice on who I can turn to to complain further as I have all the evidence? I keep getting told the council as it is an environmental issue (noise pollution), but as I said above they will not get involved. I do not want to go to the police unless absolutely necessary. I have also dropped hints about noise to others in our road and they have not seemed to have noticed/cared, as their houses do not join onto NDNs. Complaints have been put in about the dogs though.

Sorry for the essay! TIA xx

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LouiseAderyn · 17/08/2013 16:42

My new NDN are lovely people and have only been doing constant DIY for the last few months, but it is fucking annoying when you can't access your own property easily because their workmen are cluttering up the drive and all you can hear is drilling!

OP, you have my sympathy - I would go down the route of more formal complaints about noise.

Silverfoxballs · 17/08/2013 17:46

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dysfunctionallynormal · 17/08/2013 17:53

What has him being gay got to do with anything?!!!! 'Straight' ppl also have multiple relationships!!!

Sounds to me like you have a problem with his sexuality and are enjoying looking for any excuse under the sun to find fault with him.

Not all disabilities are physical. They can be mental or emotional.

Have you ever tried to befriend him or been a good neighbour yourself?

Stop being so judgemental. I find it hard to sympathise when you have that attitude!

dysfunctionallynormal · 17/08/2013 18:01

However......speak with your local ward counsellors,they hold regular surgeries and are in a better position to liaise with the council and officials. Also,check if you have a tenants&residents association and link with them. They can help.

If nothing else works-i'm going to assume you have already tried conversing with him-then perhaps your gp can write a letter stating what effect their constant DIY is having on you and you can sue him.

What do your other neighbours on the street have to say about it?

dysfunctionallynormal · 17/08/2013 20:54

Lol! I go away for a few hours and miss the fireworks!

ballstoit · 17/08/2013 22:50

Surely if they'd been drilling and sanding enough for dust to get in through your windows for the last 6 months there would be nothing left in the house by now. I've been sanding a wall in my house today with an industrial sander today, and the dust hasn't reached my own windows, never mind my neighbours Hmm

It is difficult when you're at home all day, every day with nothing to distract you, and I'm sure the noise can be irritating. Take steps with environmental health with regards to that, but also try to find other distractions to keep the issues with your neighbours in perspective. A walk to the shops and back, swim or a wander round a museum or library will give you a break from the noise and a chance to relax.

Boosiehs · 17/08/2013 23:00

Seriously, is my post invisible?

Councils only permit noisy work in residential areas fom about 8.30-6 weekdays and 8.30-1 Saturdays, with no work on Sundays or public holidays.

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