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Original poster

AIBU to be a bit miffed at this FB post re internet security?

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prettybutclumpy · 16/08/2013 13:47

I posted a photo of my two DC starting back at school (Scotland). Lots of likes from my friends and family, and several lovely comments. Then woman who I used to know through a hobby group which I'm no longer part of (so probably won't see her, we weren't really going out together friends) posted long and detailed comment about why I shouldn't have put up this photo showing the school badge for internet security reasons. Now she may have a point, but what I'm miffed about is that no-one will comment now, and it has made the post go a bit sour. AIBU to wish she'd sent me a PM about it instead?

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DorisShutt · 16/08/2013 13:50

Delete her comment!

Tbh, if your profile is wide to the world, then it probably isn't the most sensible thing, but it it's locked to just your friends then I can't see the issue either.

Original poster
prettybutclumpy · 16/08/2013 13:51

its just my friends who can see the photos, just to be clear
thanks Doris

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MrsBungle · 16/08/2013 13:52

As long as your profile is locked to friends I don't see the issue. Just delete her comment!

nipersvest · 16/08/2013 13:56

delete her comment and click on the cog when you view the photo, you can customise who can see it and who can't, make it invisible to her and only visible to close friends.

Tee2072 · 16/08/2013 13:56

Even if your picture is wide open to the whole world, what business is it of hers?

Delete her comment and unfriend her and block her.

chicaguapa · 16/08/2013 13:57

Except that the FB security features aren't exactly high brow so your profile could be hacked into. So I wouldn't rely on that to keep your DC safe.

I can see the friend's point tbh but a PM would have been better. So YANBU.

Original poster
prettybutclumpy · 16/08/2013 14:02

thanks for the tip about the cog niper, that's exactly what I have done, so no-one else can see her comment, and she doesn't know I've deleted it. Perfect solution.

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prettybutclumpy · 16/08/2013 14:26

Just on the matter of the post, what do you think if people had seen my kids online, worked out what school they went to and came after them (god forbid of course). Is it more risky to put their pic on FB or let them play outside on the street?

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MikeLitoris · 16/08/2013 14:29

But people see my dc in their uniforms everyday. They wear them in public.

What is the difference?

YoniMatopoeia · 16/08/2013 14:31

What do she (and others) think is going to happen? If you had an ex you were hiding from, or were in s witness protection program then I could see her point. But otherwise, I don't get it.

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prettybutclumpy · 16/08/2013 14:40

I'm much the same as you both (what rude fabulous names!) I don't see what the issue is really

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SmiteYouWithThunderbolts · 16/08/2013 14:44

What do she (and others) think is going to happen? If you had an ex you were hiding from, or were in s witness protection program then I could see her point. But otherwise, I don't get it.

This.

Tee2072 · 16/08/2013 14:55

I don't get it and never have. Surely you're kids go out in public every single day, right?

usualsuspect · 16/08/2013 14:58

I don't get it either, so what if people see your kids in their school uniform.

Just delete and block her.

cushtie335 · 16/08/2013 16:36

I don't use Facebook but it seems perfectly normal to have a wee "back to school" type pic on your page of your DCs in their uniforms. I have relatives in Edinburgh and I know that the Evening News still prints the Primary One class photos of every school in the district as a souvenir, they do it with the P7s at the end of session as well. Why do people see potential harm and danger in every single scenario these days? It's getting ridiculous.

iwouldgoouttonight · 16/08/2013 16:44

If children have their own Facebook accounts and get chatting to people online who they don't know, then that person could easily track them down if they see a photo of them in their school uniform. That's why I thought it wasn't a good idea to put up pictures which potentially give away your location. Posting pictures of your own children in their uniforms, who aren't talking to strangers on the internet, doesn't seem any more of a risk than people seeing them in the street.

strokey · 16/08/2013 16:58

Whats so special about your child that you think a paedo would be prize them above all others, and go to the effort of tracking them down?

I reckon they are pretty indiscriminate myself, and don't imagine they need clues to find a nearby school.

YANBU, its rude of her. Youd look like a right twat if you photoshopped out the logo.

I put naked pictures up of mine when I feel like it.

HelenaLindor · 16/08/2013 17:08

It is sensible to lock down your FB accounts so that only your friends see your photos, and your updates. Nothing to do with being paranoid tin-hat wearers, just basic internet security

A paedophile is not going to search FB for children wearing a school uniform in order to find them and abduct them.

Saying that, if your children use Social Media, they should follow certain rules, one of which is never post pictures or updates that identify where you live, especially if it is a site which uses pseudonyms as you don't know who you are conversing with.

Pretty
If you don't converse with her anymore, then delete her from your friends. She was silly and rude.

Tee2072 · 16/08/2013 17:30

What are you securing against, HelenaLindor?

DayOldCheesecake · 16/08/2013 17:40

To follow on from what Helena says, have "geographical location" on the OFF mode for pics because it can narrow your location to the exact house.

Tee2072 · 16/08/2013 17:45

Exact house? Really? Because my FB thinks I live on the other side of Northern Ireland most of the time.

It's not that accurate. If it is? You probably live at Buckingham Palace.

Blissx · 16/08/2013 17:46

She is right though. You can easily get the GPS co-ordinates off a photo on
Facebook and find out where it was taken. Scum use it to stalk children/steal new cars/rob houses etc. Our children will be the first generation who will have their entire lives documented online (from scan picture to first day at school...) and that is dangerous. I personally don't upload any photos of my DD but I cannot stop other people doing it and that worries me.

This is going to come back and bite us on the bum. Already horror stories from poor children committing suicide to students not getting jobs. This person is right. What is more important; the safety of our DC or 'nice written comments' that will be forgotten about next week?

DayOldCheesecake · 16/08/2013 17:48

Tee, you really should keep more up to date in your line of work.

Blissx · 16/08/2013 17:48

Oh, and the GPS coordinates plus other metadata are geotagged when the image is taken from a digital camera or smartphone. Nothing to do with Facebook and anyone can get them regardless of privacy settings.

Tee2072 · 16/08/2013 17:49

Really? I should keep up with all the scaremongers and over the top expectations of FB's capabilities?

I'd have no time to do anything else!

But thanks for the career advice. Really. I mean that.