to not want DH playing cricket if he's feeling dizzy

[misterkite]

all manners of rows with DH over this.

DH is due to play cricket this weekend. Over the past couple of days he has been suffering from dizzy spells. This is a cause of worry to me because of his medical history - he suffered a brain injury last year; he is a type 1 diabetic; he had surgery on his ear earlier this year.

we don't know what is causing the dizziness, doctor thinks could just be his sinuses.

I asked him to promise me that if he were still having the spells at the weekend, that he wouldn't play cricket. I can't help worrying about his health, especially after the brain injury which resulted from a diabetic hypo. he could have died. we have a dc together and I feel he should take my feelings and worry into consideration.

he is refusing and says a dizzy spell won't stop him playing, he doesn't need my permission etc. AIBU?

Tbh I think the more you tell him he can't, the more he's likely to want to. I think you have to trust him to make his own decision on this. Nagging him (however good the intentions) might well make him dig his heels in, even if he's not feeling right on the day. He needs to make his own mind up at the w/e, I think.

I understand that you are worried.

He is an adult and if he wishes to play cricket when he is not feeling dizzy then that's his choice.

I know this may sound controlling but I would tell someone on the team, it not fair on them to be dealing with a potential emergency because he is silly enough to play.

I have a really varied and crazy medical history. It has made me adamant that it won't stop me doing something if I have any control over it. I tried skiing this year. My DP was horrified, his parents declared me stupid. I did try to reassure him - but I did it anyway.

I think you'll find your DH is the same, here. The more you worry and nag, the more he'll want to do it.

Agree that he'll stop if he feels really rubbish, and let him play. Take the stress and pressure out of the situation, so he doesn't feel the need to rebel.