to ask a cosleeping question?

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I know the rules (I think) best with bf mothers, no smokers, drinking, medication or drugs. No pillows duvets gaps long strings on nightwear, not next to dads oron sofa's.

My question is how long do they apply for?

Dd2 is 14 months and mobile, she will not sleep in her cot past 3am so gets in ours but as I have her on the side (me between her and dh) she has fallen out once twice . And she does like to nick my pillow.

Just found out as well that my MIL after claiming she sleeps all night when staying with her actually takes her into her bed and has her between her and dd1 (nearly 4). Not very happy as I'm not sure sleeping next to sibling is safe? ?

So is it now safe/unsafe for her to be next to sibling or mil?

And how else could I keep her in bed my side as mattress on floor not an option and I found bedguards she climbed!

You could insist on use of a bedside cot if you feel wary about other relatives. I did have DS in the middle of me and XP fairly regularly, it was never an issue.

Good point Yoni, DD1 has never fallen out of bed and if you touche her in your sleep she flinches then tries to swim kick her legs so I should be more worried about the having a sleep fight than anything (dd2 is a fiesty one).

I Do enjoy co-sleeping, so think I'll stop fretting!

Oh no I meant the ability/likelihood of the younger one to fight back if getting squashed as a positive thing!

I am probably a bit too laid back though. Take with pinch of salt

I forgot a Yoni, I think DH and I could entertain our sleepless nights placing bets on sleep fights

DS is 16 months and sleeps fine between me and DH. He spends most of the night kicking DH and latching on to me, though, so I can't say we sleep very well!

Ds is 13mo and we co-sleep. He is in the middle or he'd fall out, however I wouldn't do this if dh smoked or had sleep apnea - either he would have to sleep elsewhere or ds would have to sleep in his cot. I think pillows are fine after 12 months too.

I put my big maternity pillow (shaped like a big c) along the edge of the bed and ds sleeps in the inside space with me on the other side. He has plenty of room to move without risk of being smothered but won't fall out either.
The co- sleeping rules are generally for younger babies who can't kick off duvets and control their temperature. Can you not rearrange your room is bed is against a wall? Or buy a cheap bed guard to keep her in!

I think once they start crawling around its safe. DS sleeps in his cot next to our bed and he's 19m but crawls into our covers at night and will happily push off the duvet or go back into his cot when he's hot. He's been doing this for a few months now.

DNephew (15 months), co-sleeps with his Mum and Dad. The 2 nights I have looked after him, he has co-slept with me. I have been knackered the next day as I've not slept properly due to being very aware of him in the bed.

I co-slept with my younger 2 DC from birth, and didn't feel the same high awareness, so I wouldn't worry about MIL. Also, babies can have their own duvet from 12 months so I had mine back once each DC got to 12 months.