One of my acquaintances on FB (a lady i know from school) lives with her father and is his carer.
Approx 3-4 times a week, there's an unpleasant status from her complaining about her father. These range from things quite petty "According to my dad, I'm not even allowed to play music now because it annoys him" to things quite worrying "I've had to go to the shop three times for that fuckin dick today coz he keeps forgetting stuff. Next time he asks, i swear to god i'll kill him."
The latest upset seems to be a disagreement between her and her father about a holiday.
She's been writing about her friend's hen do abroad for months, and has said some things about her dad not keen on her going. "He thinks I'm wasting our money", "He thinks he can't manage on his own for a week" "He thinks he's the boss of me, I deserve some fun".
Anyway, she's due to leave on Friday night for Ibiza for the week. One of her friends commented tonight asking who's going to be caring for her dad while she's gone and she has written: "Dunno. He's had months to sort something out. If it comes to it, I'm sure he'll be okay on his own 'til I come back."
Now, she is his full time carer. This is her job, she says. I don't know what condition the man has but I'm assuming it's something he can't cope with alone for a week. I used to be a carer for a short time. I know it's hardgoing 24/7, and there was no one to 'cover me'. If i had wanted to go on holiday, it would be MY responsibility to find someone to care for my relative, not his.
I'm really concerned about him and don't really know what to do. Part of me is saying "Mind your own business", but i don't think I can.
Is there anyone I can phone/contact? Do SS deal with this type of thing?
I don't even have an address or anything. I feel hopeless and somewhat responsible at the same time.
Perhaps more a relationships/wwyd rather than AIBU?