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To stop feeding visitors?

15 replies

PoisonedApple · 13/08/2013 21:46

They arrived Thursday and were due to leave Sunday. They are still here. They are lovely but have eaten Their way through all the food I made and froze in preparation for arrival of DD2... Should I go shopping tomorrow or starve them out?

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summermakesmesneeze · 13/08/2013 21:48

Perhaps they could be encouraged to have a turn cooking? And I hope they're at least doing the dishes?!

Earthworms · 13/08/2013 21:48

Fucks sake, hoe send them out to replace all the stuff they ate

Then turf them out

Earthworms · 13/08/2013 21:49

Hoe? Fuck knows where that came from..

maddy68 · 13/08/2013 21:50

Say you have plans for tomorrow afternoon with a friend. Say you are sorry that you can't rearrange. It's been lovely to see them, you know they won't be there when you get back so I'll see you on x date

They would be pretty thick skinned to not take that hint

numbum · 13/08/2013 21:50

Cry. Tell them you have no money for more food! They'll either go shopping or leave.

Who are they BTW?

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/08/2013 21:51

Dear god, who are they?

Please tell me they have made some kind of contribution?

EndoplasmicReticulum · 13/08/2013 21:53

Why are they still there?

We are currently staying with in-laws and have just had to extend our stay - but we are providing food at least every other evening.

Very rude to outstay your welcome and not at least offer to do a big shop.

mumofweeboys · 13/08/2013 21:56

Tell them you need to go shopping, they might take the hint. If they are close family - in laws, brothers/sisters just be honest and tell them there is no food left

inallmydays · 13/08/2013 22:00

@ Earthworms , who are they family ? friends ?

mamij · 13/08/2013 22:02

That is awful! I hope they will tell you their plans soon!

Tell them you are going to the supermarket to replenish the food, as there is no more food in the house, and ask whether they would like to accompany you so they can buy what they need.

Or get take away and split the costs.

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PoisonedApple · 13/08/2013 22:05

Husbands friends, they have been looking after DD1 lots though so I can't really be cross! Also they did buy some sugar as I had an insdequate supply for their 4 tsp. per cup habit...

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girlywhirly · 14/08/2013 08:03

Where is DH, it should be his job to call time on this visit, or find the extra cash for food/takeaways. Don't think a bit of playing with your DD and buying a bag of sugar is any kind of compensation. If there is no good reason why they are still staying beyond the arranged times, perhaps they need telling that you are pregnant and tired, and need to get the house straight for the new baby's arrival which you can't do with guests staying. You could reel off a long list of jobs/cleaning that need to be done, and if they intend to stay they will have to do them for you and make their own arrangements for meals. Bet they leave faced with that!

NewAtThisMalarky · 14/08/2013 08:07

Just play it like you know they are leaving today.

'so what time is it you are leaving? Before or after lunch??'

Oldraver · 14/08/2013 09:39

Is the bag of sugar ALL they have bought ? if thats the case they are very rude guests. We used to have a guest come who would eat us out of house and home, always expect puddings then comment on my non cooking abilities. We would go out for a meal and not offer to even pay for his own. He would frequently buy an ice cream for himself and not one for our DS....He doesnt visit anymore.

I am currently staying with someone and they have said help ourselves (as I would do) but a good guest would at least buy some stuff in

Lottapianos · 14/08/2013 09:47

They are taking the pee OP. Some people are such cheeky buggers. I had a friend who would come to stay and take over every room in the flipping house with all his crap, would eat and eat and eat and drink and drink and drink and almost take your hand off every time you offered him something but would contribute naff all. He doesn't come to stay any more

I know it's really hard but you have to be tough with people like this. I would go with previous suggestions along the lines of 'well it's been lovely but I have XYZ going on tomorrow, can't rearrange, so what time will you be off tomorrow?' plus big smile. It's your flaming home and it's not fair for them to be treating it like an all-you-can-eat buffet. Do it OP - take back your home! And have a long hard think before allowing them to come to stay ever again.

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