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AIBUs from parents of fictional children

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ProudAS · 13/08/2013 18:31

AIBU to be concerned about what DCs are up to? Since we moved to Yorkshire they've been hanging around the railway line most days and not made friends with the local children.

DS came home with a bag of coal which he said was "mined" and whilst he looked like he'd been down a coal mine I suspect it was stolen.

And then there's the station porter who seems to be getting very friendly with them - he's a nice man by all accounts but I can't help feeling suspicious.

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UnitedZingDom · 15/08/2013 21:19

fair
fanks!

MrsAMerrick · 15/08/2013 21:33

Well said, Tanith, please note Grubbybrat that it's not MY DS who has cheated in his Maths "O" level (Your DS 4 I believe??), set fire to a rickyard (your DDs 5&6), or married a man old enough to be her father (possibly older than her father (your DD1)) whose wife is not yet cold in her grave. I could go on, but I have a Twelfth Night party to plan for.....

pointythings · 15/08/2013 21:42

I'm at the end of my tether. I'm a busy mum of four DDs and my husband runs a small independent boys' school, so you can imagine how hectic my life is. Until recently the DDs just got on with being neglected their lives and didn't bother us, but now their behaviour has just got completely out of hand. They're claiming we have a ghost living in our wing of the building, they are constantly running around making strange noises and one of them is hanging around one of the older boys who is supposed to be concentrating on his studies. They also seem to have invented a scary new cult religion called 'The Worship of Monigan'. WIBU to let my DH handle the discipline even though he can be a bit over the top?

MrsAMerrick · 15/08/2013 22:06

apologies, grubbybrat I meant of course it was your DD4, not DS, who cheated on the maths O level. Not to mention misappropriation of school equipment (the telephone in the secretary's room is definitely out of bounds).

ParkerTheThief · 15/08/2013 22:41

AIBU to be worried sick about DD. when she was you her she was a real handful, obsessed by ponies and we had no end of trouble with her.

Now she is obsessed by a piano playing lout.
He's meant to be some kind of genius but I can't get past the fact he has long hair, no manners and comes from a very unsavoury background.

ParkerTheThief · 15/08/2013 22:42

MrsAMerrick, I'd watch out for that au pair. I don't think her morals are quite as you would like them to be.

Lweji · 15/08/2013 22:46

AIBU to be worried about my teenage daughter?

We have had to move town because of some sort of incident where her high school gym burned to the ground.

She keeps leaving through her window at night and hangs out with some strange kids and a librarian.

I have even spotted a wooden stick in her bag.

Now her boyfriend is very pale and only shows up at night and insists one of us invite him in to even cross the door.
I'm worried he'll end up being some sort of private detective or join the FBI.
At least he's not a Billy Idol lookalike. That would be my worst nightmare.

MrsAMerrick · 15/08/2013 22:53

Thanks for the advice, ParkerTheThief. Sorry to hear about your DD-I think you're right to be worried, the lout sounds like a fly-by-night and I wouldn't be surprised if he ended up in prison.

ParkerTheThief · 15/08/2013 23:02

You could be right MrsAMerrick. I only hope she doesn't get pregnant. If only she would see the light, the owner of the local stable she a lovely son who would be perfect for her. Mind you, he's been talking about moving away and taking his racehorse with him.

Tell me, has your son managed to reconcile himself to Vatican 2 yet? I understand its causing problems in some schools.

MadameStretchmarks · 15/08/2013 23:03

AIBU to be worried about my son?
He keeps wandering about in the woods then coming home full of stories about creatures with 'purple prickles' and 'poisonous warts'. He also claims that fox, owl and snake are now scared of him, despite being warned that they are, in fact, dangerous predators. Is this a phase or something more?

SlightlyJaded · 15/08/2013 23:45

I have come to MN hoping that there may be some MNers based in Belgium? My DS has taken up residence there with the family dog and despite being a boy, is masquerading as an adult journalist.

He has got himself into all manor of trouble and is currently hanging around with an extremely unsavoury, alcoholic ex-sailor.

If you are based in Belgium and come across a young boy with a white dog, please PM me. If it helps, he only has one outfit: camel coloured 3/4 trousers and a royal blue sweater. He also has a rather ridiculous quiff style haircut.

We are all all obviously quite worried about him and did talk to the local police (Thompson and Thompson) but they seem quite incompetent. Much more faith in any local MNers.

Thanks

Pachacuti · 15/08/2013 23:47

But whose ghost, pointythings? I think that's the real crux of the matter...

foxy6 · 15/08/2013 23:47

my Dd (15) is so much trouble. it's only me and her and I have moved form LA to give her a fresh start after all the trouble she got into at school. we moved to a lovely New town and she ahs made friends with a boy and girl, but she is still getting into trouble, I don't know what to do. she also spends a lot of time with the librarian, I think he has a lot of influence over her. AIBU to think this is inappropriate? should I report this?

thaliablogs · 16/08/2013 00:19

pointythings blimey I can't keep up with you. How about this one?

AIBU to think I should put a stop to dgd's friendship with a young man nearly twice her age? He seems a nice enough chap, but is a musician which does not seem entirely respectable, and keeps on sending her presents of books, a picture, and writing her long stories. She is devoted to him and, tbh, until now I have turned a blind eye as the poor child has had a distinct lack of good male role models given her mother's somewhat fly-by-night tendencies (dgd has lived w me since she was 10). Previously her only friend was a rather lumpish character called nina, but nina is now chasing after the boys and my poor dgd is rather left out as she is quite young for her age.

What's more this young man seems to have a deeply glamorous and deeply odd ex wife who lives up the road from us. I don't like her at all.

Dgd is now mooning about in her room almost all the time and I am at my wits end. Shall I start to hide the letters?

FairPhyllis · 16/08/2013 00:49

Any other parents with experience of addictions? My diminutive adult DS lives in a remote village which has a bit of a reputation for holding out against the law.

Sadly he has fallen into the culture of drug abuse that is rife in rural areas. Everyone in the village is on something they call 'magic potion' - is this 'street' for heroin? I know who the local dealer is too, and he is an older religious guy - I was shocked, he seemed so nice!

The only person in the village who doesn't do drugs is DS's best friend, who I hoped would be a good influence on him, but frankly he seems to be struggling with his own eating addiction - he's morbidly obese.

Anyway, the addiction is leading DS into more and more risky behaviours - most involving dangerous entanglements with the law - he thinks he has super human strength when he's high. I'm a bit worried about how he's funding this too as he doesn't seem to have a job. WWYD? Stage an intervention?

DiseasesOfTheSheep · 16/08/2013 00:53

AIBU to burn my daughter at the stake? It seems pretty appropriate since we "named her after a tree" (according to someone upthread anyway - I always thought it was a fine name for a girl!). I'm a mad-busy business woman with no time for her at all, but I recently gather she's fallen in with a bad crowd - her best friend has a history of extreme violence (her mother has numerous nicknames on this thread already!) and her other best friend has a reputation for dating older women (think several thousand year old mummies and preying mantis teachers Shock ). I also believe DD's broken our rule and had boys in her room Shock

Worst of all, a couple of weird and unknown children were recently found dead and we all know witches are to blame for their deaths. DD has loads of weird books about the supernatural so clearly she must be one of those witches. Witchcraft must be ended chants Death to witches...

Lweji · 16/08/2013 01:00

Do you think IABU to worry about my children who have gone with their elderly grandfather to this new safari park he wants to open in an island off the coast of the US.
He's been quite secretive about it for months.
All I know is that some paleontologist and a chaos theory scientist went with them.

I heard there's a tropical storm not far from the island and now I've lost all contact.

Do you think I'm just being PFB about them?

Pachacuti · 16/08/2013 01:01

You know, overall I probably wouldn't worry about the boys in her room...

FairPhyllis · 16/08/2013 03:39

Diseases For a Jewish gal she also has a strange number of crucifixes nailed up in her room ...

sunshinenanny · 16/08/2013 05:07

I have just given a home to my orphaned niece and she spends all day wondering around the garden and annoying my elderly gardener a bachelor who is not used to little girls. To make matters worse I have a sickly son who I keep hidden because he may be deformed and I expect him to die young. I don't visit him often because he reminds me of his mother, my dear late wife.Sad

I now find that my niece has gone wondering around the house in the middle of the night and found out about my DS's existence She's meddling with my DS's care upsetting my housekeeper and to crown it all she has broken into a gardenShock that I choose to keep locked because of too many unhappy memories.

AIBU to consider giving her away to the parents of one of my servant girls as they seem quite fond of her and might welcome some financial help as they have far too many children of there own!

sunshinenanny · 16/08/2013 05:22

P.S. Obviously not really sunshinenanny but don't want social services snooping around my sonBlush

Come to think of it! a good nanny might be able to solve my problem as my servant girls mother was quite rude and said "Didn't I think she had enough Brats of her own to run around after!" Perhaps I caught her on a bad day?

IrisWildthyme · 16/08/2013 05:51

AIBU to discourage DD's weird fiancé?

DD1 is very arty and not particularly practical-minded. She spent most of her childhood moonching about outdoors doing god-knows-what, we got worried about her a lot of the time she seemed to be hoarding food and extra clothes and was very secretive. Now she's pretty much a grown-up she's got this boyfriend, who seemed like a nice enough chap (librarian, son of a pair of musicians) but is just plain weird. He seems to turn up and disappear whenever he feels like it without telling us what he's doing. I keep seeing him naked in inappropriate places and think he may be some kind of nudity freak. I think he must go on massive booze-benders because sometimes when I see him he looks so rough he could have aged 2 decades - but then next time I see him he'll look himself again. DD2 is slightly freaked out by him as she claims she saw him (or someone who looks just like him) hanging around our house decades ago when the kids were youngsters. DD1 brushes away our concerns about whether or not she really should be marrying him, claims that she's been waiting for this man all her life and that in a way she's already married him - what kind of weird attitude is that? I'd much rather she found a nice young man who was a bit more normal. I want to try and break this relationship up, AIBU?

WhatWillSantaBring · 16/08/2013 08:54

AIBU to worry about DS disappearing constantly?

He's an ordinary boy but when eats a banana, he disappears and I don't see him for days. There's also this weird black crow that follows him round and I think the crow also steals bananas from my fruit bowl.

I live at 29 Acacia Avenue if that helps?

OneoftheseBoxes · 16/08/2013 09:02

Aibu? My 3year old insists I shouldn't go down to the end of the town without him. What's the worst that could happen?

Incidentally, Wibu with his name? We love the names James and Morrison, but Mil says we shouldn't have used them twice each. And was 'Weatherby' as step too far? We don't want him to be teased.

IrisWildthyme · 16/08/2013 10:23

AIBU to feed DC3 pretty much nothing but avocado?

Right from birth was born DC3 didn't seem interested in food/milk/eating and I was very worried, until one day during weaning I tried with avocado and it's the only thing that gets a clean plate or a happy smile. The weird thing is that although me and DH, DCs1&2 are all pretty weak and weedy, ever since DC3 started eating avocado every day this food (which obviously none of the rest of us eat) seems to have been generating immense strength. It started with DC3 being able to break the high chair straps and wrench the sides off the cot - and now our little baby seems to be capable of beating up burglars and bullies! DH things we should reduce the amount of avocado we give so that DC3 becomes a bit more normal but I think we need one of the 5 of us to be strong and protect us from all the bad stuff, the rest of us are too weak to be much use. I don't know how we'd cope with heavy shoping, furniture removal etc if we didn't have this super strength to help us. AIBU to rely on my baby's strength like this?