to wish i was a SAHM

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not a smug post.

I on 2 weeks holiday from work. I have done so much with the DC and my house is finally clean, tidy and organised. I am happier, DC are happier and my relationship is alot better.

I don't feel so tired and in the last week i have not had 1 panic attack.

As a family we cant afford it, but IABU to hope for a big money win to become a SAHM.

YANBU
I'm a SAHM and am very grateful to be able too.

Short-term, SAHM life is pretty nice but long-term I think it gets wearing and isolating (been doing it for 1.5 years now) and also the impact on your career, if you want to return to work, gets more serious the longer you're out of the workplace.

Oh yanbu I'm a housewife (I've no human children, but 5 fur babies) I gave up a well paid career to be a housewife and it's the best thing I ever did, I love it!

Kar I hear you! No plans to return to work at all I have two children who are at school but I would quite like a fur baby in the form of a cat!

YANBU, I usually work part time, however have been working very long hours the last few weeks. Am exhausted, missing ds and he starts school this week. Am doing the extra hours out of necessity but it means he can have a nice birthday and a party. I would love to stay at home but as a single parent it's never going to happen

Yanbu. Two parents working full-time in a 2 parent household, and one working full-time in a single parent household, is a very tall order.

Even if you earn plenty and can outsource cleaning and ironing ... what about all the other domestic stuff that needs doing?

Its very hard and I don't blame anyone for feeling overwhelmed sometimes.

At the moment I am working about 15 hours a week and really enjoying it, but I would feel under pressure if I had to do more than this.

I wouldn't trust a cleaner even if I could afford one.

YANBU. I love being a SAHM.

I desperately want to be a SAHM. We just can't afford it :(

Me too op.
I'm back today after 3 wks off and agree my whole life was nicer.
Mostly what's upset me is my dd who has hearing and communication difficulties and was quite delayed with her speech, is suddenly communicating better and has spoken a proper sentence.
I could cry really.
I love my job but just wish I could be a mummy for a while.

I have become a SAHM recently because we couldn't afford the childcare with me working part time and I didn't want to work full time and not see DD so much. It's not perfect and there are days when I long for more adult interaction and less nappies but overall I am so glad I've gone down this road. If you're certain you want to do it are you sure you couldn't make ends meet if you gave up work? Would you save on childcare?

YANBU.

I work school hours (very lucky, I know!). Having six weeks off in the summer is absolute joy, even though I really like my job.

I've noticed DH comes home, is knackered, goes to be, gets up, grunts and goes to work. I thought he was in a mood, then realised I'm exactly the same during term time.

The only alternative would be to earn so much I could pay professional decorators, have a daily cleaner, and a live in mothers help.

I am one of those who became a sahm because we would almost make a loss on the childcare when the children were babies, and I just couldn't stand the thought of leaving them 8-6 for the sake of a few hundred £ per month. A decision made easier because I hated my job when I left.

On the whole I enjoyed being sahm at the time (with usual provisos for tearing hear out days) but it does get boring after a while 5 years!

I have been very lucky to return to work part-time in a new job. I love it all now.

Yanbu but could you do something to make work better? Flexy hours, change jobs. I've just managed to get a job share so near prefect for me with half week at home and half with the kids.

I've always been a SAHM. I start uni this September (DD is 11). Its quite shocking that I haven't done anything for 11 years but its due to cultural reasons and lack of confidence. I loved being with my DD, things are boring now she's at school (and starts secondary this September) but it is nice to not have to rush around. I have a huge amount of respect for working mothers though, my sister is a single mother and works full time, I really admire her . Regarding money, it depends just how much money you would lose a year and whether as a family you could adapt to that. Fortunately my in-laws supported DH, DD and I when DH was at uni.

So YANBU.

Definitely a grass-is-greener thing.

I've been a SAHM since losing my job a few years back, DH took on more responsibility and longer hours to cover my lost income, and now he can't cut back and we can't make the cost of childcare add up for me to go to work.

I am stuck as a SAHM, depressed and bored. I don't think I'm providing a good role model to my DCs and my house is a shithole.

My little routine at the moment is up around 8ish while the DC are having breakfast I tidy, polish a Hoover upstairs. We then have a wash and get dressed and I clean the bathroom after.
Put a load in washing machine, wipe down the tops and put dishwasher on. I then put the tv on for them while packing a picnic and we go out.
When we get back I unpack and put another load in the washing machine and start dinner. After dinner redo kitchen and clean living room.
After that we get crayons and do drawing ect until bath time ect.

Ds has autism and even that has improved over the last few day.

I'm not theoretically a SAHM now but I was before the DCs went to school. After two weeks you won't have experienced your loss of status to the outside world; the type of person who judges others only by their achievements won't have got your hackles up yet and you haven't lost your momentum with all the amazing things you have been doing. It can be a hard slog in its own way, but no YANBU.