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To be slightly annoyed....

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Tw1nkle · 12/08/2013 19:42

My DD (4.9) has been ill with tonsillitis, and is on antibiotics.
It has been arranged for ages that she was going to her nanny and grandads today, for a few days, back home on Wednesday.
I dropped her off this morning, explaining about her medicine and cream (for another issue), and explaining that she needs a relaxing few days as her temperature isn't coming down, she's still off her food, and she's been going to bed at 6pm.
So I phone at 3pm to see how she is, to find out that she hasn't been given enough medicine, and the antibiotics have been given two hours early.
DH phones them at 5.30 to say goodnight to DD before bed - no answer.
We finally ring their mobile at 6.40 - and they are just getting home.

I know it's school holidays, and it's fun for kiddies to be with their grandparents, but am I being unreasonable to think that DD will be given correct medicine, at the correct time, and get to bed at her normal time?
DH thinks i'm overacting - but i'm really annoyed!

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NarkyNamechanger · 12/08/2013 19:44

Why didn't you cancel the trip?

YouStayClassySanDiego · 12/08/2013 19:45

If she's poorly shouldn't she be at home in familiar surroundings.

If you're pissed off about how they're looking after her then bring her home so you can do it the way you want.

CaptainSweatPants · 12/08/2013 19:45

You shouldn't have sent her if you didn't think she was up to it

They obviously want to do stuff with her not just watch cbeebies for next 3 days

If you wanted that for her she should be at home with you

Sorry , hope she's better soon, could you collect her tomorrow?

littlewhitebag · 12/08/2013 19:46

I think if she needed a quiet few days and medication at certain times I would have kept her at home. However from what you have said I suspect your DD will be fine. A change of scenery has probably perked her up and a long as she gets her medicine she should be okay.

paperclipsarebetterthanstaples · 12/08/2013 19:47

Maybe she feels better today? I don't think you can dictate childcare that much when it's free and provided by loving family members tbh. Enjoy the child free time and try to stop stressing :-)

YouTheCat · 12/08/2013 19:47

Why send her off when she isn't well? She needs to be at home.

SuckAtRelationships · 12/08/2013 19:47

YABU. You either shouldn't have gone if she has to be taken care of properly or you should take her home to sort her how you want her sorted.

LostMarbles99 · 12/08/2013 19:48

YABU!

When you get free childcare, sometimes things don't happen exactly as you would like them to!

nannynewo · 12/08/2013 19:48

YABU to expect them to stay in all day if she feels up for it. But she should be having the correct medication.

And as for the posters saying she should be at home with her parents, why? Her grandparents can provide as much love and care for her as her parents. They have also previously cared for their own sick children so why not their grandparents.

YouTheCat · 12/08/2013 19:50

Not because the GPs can't look after her but because if she has a temperature and tonsilitis she will be feeling bloody awful. Better to be in familiar surroundings.

nannynewo · 12/08/2013 19:54

Yeah I understand what you mean BUT maybe her GPs house is also very familiar. Some children spend lot of time at their GPs.

thebody · 12/08/2013 19:56

tonsillitis can be very debilitating.

think you should have cancelled to be honest.

YouStayClassySanDiego · 12/08/2013 19:57

Tonsillitis is horrible and kids in particular feel drained and lethargic.

If one of my ds's were sick with a virus they'd want to be at home with us, sleeping in their bed and have the security of knowing we were there if they woke up unsettled during the night.

Granted, OP's dd must have been perfectly happy to go to Granny's but for OP to be whining now that things haven't been done her way seems petty and rather Hmm

gobbledegook1 · 12/08/2013 19:57

YABU to have sent her in the first place. I wouldn't expect my children's grandparents to look after my children for me when their ill and unsettled and they probably wanted her so they could have some fun not play nursemaid. You could have rearranged for another time.

NotYoMomma · 12/08/2013 19:57

yabridiculous

it was 6.40 Hmm hardly late

and if she was so ill its YOUR job to deal with it

mumofweeboys · 12/08/2013 20:00

How long has she been on antibiotics? As long as they have given I wouldn't be worried. After a couple of days of antibiotics I felt we'll enough to be out and about with my throat infection

YouTheCat · 12/08/2013 20:02

OP said her temperature hasn't come down though.

WaitMonkey · 12/08/2013 20:05

YABVU. If she isn't well she should be at home. Poor thing is probably feeling rotten. Could you go and pick her up tomorrow ?

oldgrandmama · 12/08/2013 20:08

Sorry, I think she should be home with you. When small children are poorly, they want mummy around, however loving and caring the grandparents. Get her home.

numbum · 12/08/2013 20:11

Antibiotics kick in quickly. Maybe she felt better today? Not giving her medicine is a bit shit but it's easy to forget when they arent acting poorly any more.

6.40 isnt late for a 4.9 year old!

Original poster
Tw1nkle · 12/08/2013 21:05

DD was looking forward to going to her GP's. They live about 20 minutes away, and she knows she could have got her nan to ring me if she wanted to come home.

She's been on the antibiotics since Friday, but still has a temperature.
She was better in herself though.
The GP's were also really looking forward to having DD for a few days, so as they are only 20 minutes away, and DD wanted to go, then I felt I should let her go.
I'm just feeling a little stressed due to the antibiotics and them keeping her out and giving her a busy day.

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