PIL not seeing DD1 untill DD2 is born?

[MommyBird]

All i seem to do on this page is moan and ask advice about my PIL and i'm sorry, but it's happening again.
Most of the time i don't know if IABU or i'm hormonal (10 days overdue, being induced wednesday :()

So here is my AIBU this time!

DD1 is 3.5
PIL come down once a week to our house to see her.
FIL drives. MIL doesn't (her choice, was given the opp to learn but said if she wants to go anywhere she would catch the bus) they have recently had a car, so they have been coming down on a saturday or sunday when FIL can drive her down. she works saturday and finishes about 2 and they would come down at about 3.

Before they had a car. My husband would rush round at work, drive to pick her up from work and bring her to our house then take her home. once a week on an afternoon as they both finished around 2/3.

Visits have allways been up in the air due to her cancelling alot. very regular. for silly reasons. she moans she doesnt see DD1 enough (yet cancels her visits!)

We can no longer do weekend visits (lots of different reasons, mainly due to my husbands hours at work changing and DD1 starting nursery) and DH can't pick her up from work due to his hours, so DH has said she will have to be abit more flexable and catch a bus to our house one afternoon a week to see the girls and FIL can pick her up on the way home.
She doesn't like this idea.

Now. This is the bit where i need your advice. i'm sorry for it being so long.

Husband has told PIL this. She has said she will just wait till DD2 is born to come down and will 'see what happends won't we?' (not sure what she means by this)
this was about 3 weeks ago and the only reason she hasn't been down is because she doesn't want to catch a bus to our house.

I'm abit miffed as our LG has been ignored but she expects it to be ok when DD2 to pop down?

i'm not sure what will happen when our DD2 is born. Will she make her own way down if she's born on wednesday? Or will she wait till the saturday? When is best for her? And not us.

This really wasn't ment to be this long! Well done for anyone who's read the lot.
I'm a youngish mom who suffered with PND and Anxiety after DD1 was born, so overthinking, over reacting and worrying is normal for me :)

AIBU? I just wanted abit of advice before i discuss it with my husband. I don't want to make a big deal..if there's nothing to make a dig deal of!

It's not a big deal. Or at least if it is, it's not something you need to worry about - it's their decision, their call. Your MIL may have some issues around buses - some bad previous experience or something - but she needs to tell you the score and until she does, there's nothing more you can do.

And bear in mind lots of us have DCs who see their grandparents a couple of times a year, if that - it's a different relationship, but still one that works.

So - calm down, don't overthink this, and the best of luck with the new baby - just enjoy it :). This will sort itself out.

ah love there's nothing for you to worry about here.

your dh seems to be more than capable of handling his parents and if she works she's quite capable of getting on a bus or fil driving her over one evening.

you forget it. concentrate on you and best of luck for Wednesday.

She catches buses everyday to and from work so there's no issues with buses.

Thank you for your replies! I'll put it down to my hormones :) atleast its nothing for me to stress about :)
and thank you!

Good luck for Wednesday. Stop trying to look after everyone else and look after yourself (and your kids).

I will do! I over think alot so need people who don't know me to tell me to calm down! :)

Thank you, really not looking forward to it :(, hoping my body will start by itself!

Be happy the mad thing isn't in your face at this stressful time. It would be so much worse if she was constantly wanting to come by! Especially when you have a new little baby.
I saw my grandparents for a few days once a year and I still loved them; your children won't miss out if they see granny every few weeks instead of every few days.

I was induced with DS and will be induced (early) with DC2 next month. It isn't bad (although I don't know what spontaneous labour is like).

Leave her to it. She's probably hoping you'll go and visit her if she dithers long enough. She knows she's welcome to come if she wants so you are not depriving her of seeing her grandchildren. Just let her get on with it, you've got enough on.

Good luck with the birth

Apart of me is glad she's not around as she can be abit too much for me but i'm miffed my lg is missing out.

The other half is angry! If we even tried to change the day we'd be accused of denying her visits and how our lg won't know who she is. she really guilt tripped us and now the balls in her court she can't be bothered..but it's still our fault she's not seeing her.

Eurgh! Sorry for ranting.
Thank you for all the 'Good Lucks!" i've been in slow labour for about a week now so fingers crossed it won't take too long! Been reading some stories and i've managed to scare myself haha

Just ignore your MIL and her guilt trip whining,if she was that bothered about how often she sees her GD then she'd make the effort to come visit instead of relying on the family taxi service that is her DH and DS! You have nothing to worry about,if she wants to blame anyone but herself for how often she sees her grandkids then leave her to it,there's no pleasing people like that because enough will never be enough!

Good luck for the birth,concentrate on that instead of your PITA MIL xx