To have stopped dd's piano lessons?

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Dd's older brothers love their lessons and practise everyday without me ever having to nag and progressing beautifully.

Dd 8 1/2whole diff ball game,never,ever practises.To progress she should be practising daily.

Teacher is fab and lovely.

Dd is a nightmare re anything she finds hard(eg maths),gives up and concentration not that good.She'll read for hours but craft stuff gets tossed to one side after 15 minutes.

Thought piano lessons would be good re helping concentration but don't want daily battles.Need to do a bit extra on her maths and don't want to be on her back all the time.

She has been doing said lessons a year and can't afford to throw money away for little gain.Teacher being very understanding.

So,views please.

It sounds like she has talents and things she enjoys like reading so yanbu not to push something she doesn't enjoy and isn't good at and that isn't necessary for life

Maths is a battle you need to stick with, but piano you can gracefully retire from I think!

See if there's a different activity she wants to do instead?

Does she like playing piano?
If not, then there is little point making her take lessons because you think it will help her concentrate.
You say she reads for hours, so why do you think she lacks concentration?

Give her a break.

Are you making her do maths in the holidays or are you not in the UK?

If she really, really doesn't want to do piano, crafts or whatever, leave her be to do what she likes with her leisure time.

I have 2 DCs, DS is gifted musically and practices all the time, never ever has to be told to practice, (in fact, sometimes we tell him he's practicing a bit too much lol). DD was going to music lessons. She has aptitude but absolutely no enthusiasm for it. She was putting a bit half hearted practice about 10 minutes before each lesson, still managed to progress and do well in the exams because as I say the aptitude was there. She asked me if she could pack it in as it was just making her miserable. This was after about a year of lessons and I agreed that she could. She took up martial arts instead and LOVES it, completely different attitude and is always desperate to go. So, after all that, I think you should let her pack it in and hopefully she will find something in due course that she really enjoys. Good luck!

YANBU. Save the money, and spend it later on a different activity.

YANBU

It won't help to force her, if she really doesn't want to you. You can't make someone be musical,they have to have a love for it.

I think this a battle you could do without.

Encourage her to take up and stick at something she wants to do. And reading for hours isn't a bad thing.

My opinion,maths is a battle we need to tackle,piano not so much.

The thing is teacher is fab and learning a musical instrument is supposed to aid concentration.

Dd reads for hours because she loves it,finds it easy and it takes little effort.School as mentioned her attitude re anything she finds hard(PE too).

Yes she has done a bit in the hols as after school she is often too knackered.

Dd has just admitted she doesn't like the lessons(used to say she liked the lessons but just not the practise).

You need to be very disciplined and practise loads with an instrument. Sounds like it's not her thing tbh. I tried to get ds to play but it turned out drums and guitar were more his thing

Let her give them up OP.

The fact she reads is admirable.

Can you spend the money on a good maths tutor for your DD? One she gets along with well.

I payed out for 6 months worth of weekly maths tutoring for my DD, it was a struggle to find the money, but it was so worth it.

Then you could ask her if there's something she would like to take up. Rather than something just fitting in with her bro's.

If she is not keen on the piano playing then she should not be forced to continue with them. Playing a musical instrument requires innate talent and passion for it. Not everybody has that - I and my siblings didn't despite our parents having both.
You say she loves reading. Encourage that .
If she enjoys the piano lessons she can finish the course, even if she doesn't excel or achieve the level desired. It is not worth pushing her to do something she has no real interest in.

Witnessing my dad spent miserable years (on both sides) trying to get my siblings and I to play the piano and, even worse as far as we were concerned, golf (which he was passionate about) taught me a very important lesson.

There really is no point if the child isn't interested or motivated by the activity.

We still got annoyed and frustrated because it seemed that everything we exposed dd to didn't interest her. Then I finally gave into the one thing she'd been begging to do since she was about 3yrs old and booked her onto musical theatre classes. And she astounded us. She loves every second and is motivated to learn her lines etc without a hint of nagging by us.

She's also doing very well at the piano which is great as we initially tried the flute and realised after a few sessions it was never going to work.

It's not a case of instantly giving up on things (and obviously some things are non-negotiable) but as someone said, picking your battles, and focussing on the things they love rather than what you wish they would love.

I would give up the Piano, it sounds like she isent enjoying it. Mabey find an instrument or activity she does like doing, no point on piano because her brothers are!

Great,a consensus of opinion!

Will do the deed then.

Didn't want to regret it later iykwim.

Many thanks all!