To be slightly (only a teeny bit) unsettled by this (relates to an ex BF)

[nothingtoseeheremoveon]

Just wanted a reality check to see if anyone else does this sort of thing too.
I'm happily married, despite what this post may imply, and have been for 4 years, with 2 small children. I have a few exes, but one that got under my skin around 2004, only for 7 months. It ended acrimoniously and we have brief dalliance in 2005 for a month. The ex emailed me once after I moved in with my DP (who is now DH in 2008) but I have had no contact since then after I told him I was very happy with DP and had no intention of having anything further to do with him or the past.
Anyway, I click upon the ex's facebook profile once every few months, I think because of curiosity more than anything, and perhaps a perverse need to think my life is going better than his (childish I know)
He now has what looks like a serious GF.
My feelings are a mixture of 'Good for him', nostalgia, and also being slightly miffed that he is no longer single and miserable!
Just to reiterate, I have NO intention of contacting him, and I would never cheat on DH or put my own happiness/family at risk.

Is any of this normal or am I a stalker?

I had been rational about a major ex-BF for years (we still have some mutual frends, so I had heard bits and pieces over the years and he married an ex-good friend of mine) but, in the run-up to my 30th and heavily pg, I became a bit obsessed, lurking on his and his wife's FB profile a lot. Still embarrassed now, in case they had trackers, as he works in computing .... It wasn't healthy.

To clarify, I didn't want to see them or contact them and certainly didn't want to be with him, but I became paranoid that she might have lost weight and he might have a really good job and such like. I blame the hormones and lack of sleep ......

TVtonight- I'm paranoid I'll click the friend request button!

Hang on a sec.. in my defense (sp?) The OP did ask if it was normal and to me knowing you have a 'perverse need' to compare your life for the better with someone elses, as well as saying you're miffed they're no longer single and miserable, is not what I call normal.

However, OP has come back to clarify and said it's a bad turn of phrase, so clearly she's not as bothered as her OP initially suggested.

Nothing wrong with being friends with exes on facebook (assuming you're friends). I also have few on mine. But honestly, other than when the friend request came through I never make a point of clicking to look at them (although having said that I don't look at most people on my FB - not sure I should even be on it)!

I think it is pretty normal OP, or at least within the range. Ime, most people have 'the one that got away'. I do, and there are times (not often) when I wish I could have the opportunity to get closure with him, whatever that may involve. Those feelings are very infrequent because it was a long time ago.. in your case, it's not that long ago so your feelings are understandable.

It might help though, to stop looking him up on FB