To be annoyed at DP?

[Mycatistoosexy]

I probably am so just let rip...

DS has been up since 5am. I continually tried for an hour and a half to get him to go back to sleep with no joy.

I am exhausted. This is after a year of all night wakings bar a handful being up to me. I haven't slept for more than four hours unbroken in over a year. DS isn't soothed well by DP so it's always left up to me.

DP woke up and when I said "I'm so tired, I can't do this" he said "I've been awake too". I asked if he'd been awake for an hour and half, he said no, I asked if that was the best thing to do right now then Togo on about him being awake too. He said "just shush, I'm not going to talk to you right now". Inside I'm fuming. He always does this, goes on about how tired he is I I complain about being tired. I just want some sympathy/support from him. It reminds me of a time wen DS was only a few months old and I woke him up during the night and he said "what do you want me to do about it?"

I'm rambling and probably BU but I'm so tired and pissed off.

I'm in the same boat. My DH works nights and for the past 3 years I have done all nights and all mornings...even when pg with DS.
It sucks.
YANBU.

Make yourself a nice strong coffee, that'll help. I think. yawn

You have my sympathy Flora. Here's to

DP is on leave from work at the moment so he has no excuse though!

Sleep deprivation is pretty shit isn't it?

It's crappy, I often have the who is more tired argument with oh. When my oh is home we take turns getting up and letting other person have lie in.

At the moment I have a newborn so I get up at night more than oh so if I have to get up with the rest of the tribe at 6am (yawn) and have had a truly horrendous night I tell him I'm going back to bed for a nap.

Why do you put up with this behaviour OP? Just tell him its his turn? Is he always this much of a cock?

My DH complains about this and when I point out how much nighttimes/illness I've been doing and how tired I am, his reply is always "it's not a competition..."

I now attempt to nudge him when I wake. On non-working days just so it isn't a competition

Why do you do every night?
How on earth will DS get better with his dad if he never does it?
Start a rota. At an absolute minimum you should get one weekend night where DS is not your problem, so you can catch up on sleep

OP, if your DP is not at work today, hand him your DS and say 'I'm off for a nap now, don't wake me' and leave them to it.

As harsh as this sounds you are enbaling him being a bad parent, make him!!

you need you're sleep.

I feel absolute crap most days...mouth ulcers, eye infections...and I catch every bug under the sun!
But I did know I was going to be the one responsible for nights and mornings...I just didn't realise how hard it is.

DH could do more, if it was with the kids or in the house but I have no energy to argue with him so just leave it...which is bad. Some days I feel very frustrated with the situation. It's hard to force someone to do something but try and have a calm discussion, don't leave it like I am doing...I'll end up resenting my DH in the long run.

So he's not working at the moment, and he's still not getting up in the night at all?!

No he isn't working but no he doesn't do the night wakings (if he's working and DS is ill or sleeping badly, he sleeps downstairs as to not be disturbed!!)

DS really doesn't settle on him. I do feel like I've made a rod for my own back because I never pushed it at the beginning and now DS won't fall asleep on DP.

I went back for a nap with DS at 8.30 so feel a bit better now. DP has made me coffee and is quite sheepish so he knows Im pissed off.

I think from bitter experience your DP can and should now learn how to settle DS. It may take a few nights, but knowing you're there to help won't make it easier, even though it feels as if it is!
Tell your DP that while he is off work, it's now his baptism of fire for night waking. Since I got my husband to do it, DS2 will normally sleep a lot better as he knows it's daddy coming in, not mummy!

Rest up today, nap when you want to, you must rest and relax when you can!

Yoiur problem isn't your ds's early wakings, it's your selfish husband.
Time to ring the changes OP.