AIBU to be irritated/angry/sad/upset

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etc, etc...

Or: AIBU to think such and such a thing?

The answer is always no! Emotions are never "unreasonable". Thoughts are never "unreasonable". You are entitled to your internal life.

Unless your name is Robert Oppenheimer and your thoughts have almost led the world to nuclear annihilation then you were not unreasonable to have had them.

That is all.

YANBU I agree - you can't tell people they are wrong for feeling something - those threads make a bit

But sometimes those emotions are completely irrational and an overreaction to the situation.

So yes sometimes people are being unreasonable to be "absolutely livid that someone left the toilet seat up" - mildy annoyed or a bit frustrated perhaps but if you are livid then your emotional reaction is a massive overreaction!

I think people are looking for feedback on whether the feelings they are harbouring are healthy and hoping you will reason them out of them if they are not.

yes but "unreasonable" suggests fault. Where does knowing your feelings are unreasonable get you- except feeling worse? You cant unfeel them can you?

Emotions are never unreasonable, but sometimes you need to look at the other person's point of view and try to understand why they have done the thing that upset you. So you may be being unreasonable if you have only thought about how it affects you and haven't considered their side of the story.

It means you can consider your reaction, why you overreacted and look at what else is going on to cause that.

Sometimes emotions are unreasonable, what is wrong with accepting that?

Hmm.

Am I unreasonable to be upset that my OH washed his cup and then left it on the draining board and didn't dry it and put it in the cupboard?

I think sometimes emotions can be unreasonable. And I say this as someone that used to get unreasonably upset over little things in the past. Usually unreasonable emotional reaction is a symptom of something deeper, rather than the real cause, however.

It is how to handle or deal with your emotiions that make you U or not, not whether you have them or not.

Surely?