dc birthday.

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theonlysaneinthevillage · 11/08/2013 00:07

Dp will be away for dc's birthday. He thinks I should celebrate/pretend the birthday is on the Saturday when he gets back.

As DC is going to be 3 and therefore has no concept of months or dates, it seems a bit churlish to disagree.

But for some reason I dislike the idea.

I can't warm to the idea of spending the whole birthday saying nothing and pretending its not the day that I gave birth to DC. Iyswim?

Aibu?

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BrianTheMole · 11/08/2013 00:11

No you're not. I'd struggle with that too.

steppemum · 11/08/2013 00:14

well, you could do both. One present and little tea - cup cake and candle on the day and 'big celebration' with whole family/little party on the saturday?

We actually did what you dh wants when dd2 was 3. Dh had been away for 2 weeks and came back the morning after her actual birthday. We told her that her birthday was on the day he came back and did it all on that day. She was none the wiser and it was only pre-school who were a bit taken aback.
It worked brilliantly, because she didn't know that daddy had been away on her birthday.

older dcs nearly gave the game away when they realised though! And it was only one day.

MCos · 11/08/2013 00:20

Do both. My DDs are in school. Parties are held whichever weekend either side of BD works best for us. We make a fuss on the day, but the main event will be at the weekend.

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theonlysaneinthevillage · 11/08/2013 00:26

The plan was to do both, but he just sort of suggested/sprung it on me today.

I don't think I want to ignore the true birthday. It just feels wrong.

I think I partly feel its not about dp its about DC.

Maybe that is BU?

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BrianTheMole · 11/08/2013 00:42

Doing both is good. And telling dc that today is their birthday but that you are celebrating it twice so daddy can be there. Kids go with that. Changing the day is odd.

trinity0097 · 11/08/2013 08:05

Two celebrations is the way to do this! Just like you might when they are older have a birthday in the week and a party on the weekend.

mamas12 · 11/08/2013 15:57

My dcs birthdays are two days apart
I always did joint parties and remembered that I sat them down one day to tell them actually they don't have the same birthday but they have their own special day and time was to decide what they each wanted to do this year
They were so excited!
You could mark it for yourself but they're none the wiser

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