to wonder whether to go ahead with birthday party here after tragic accident?

[SchrodingersFanny]

We were going to have my ds 4th birthday at a farm with play barn. Part of package is a tour of farm etc when other visitors have gone home.

Then today I see this in the news

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-leeds-23645714

Dh thinks it would be OK, but a little concerned. My mum thinks we should cancel as we are responsible for other people's children.

What do you think?

Hmm I'm not sure. I think you should speak to a few other mums of the children that would be going. I'm not sure what I'd do in your shoes but if you go ahead then I think you should make it clear that all parents are welcome to stay for the duration of the party. If my DD was invited to this then I think I would let her go but only if I could stay to watch her

I wouldn't go under the circumstances.

Whilst as other have said health and safety will be paramount , I certainly couldn't hold a 'party' there after such a very recent incident. I have an 11 year old Harry and words cannot describe how horrendous this must be for his mum and family. God bless this little boy

Sofia - unfortunately it is likely to be more common than we like to realise. At this farm, bearing in mind the situation, nobody will be turning up drunk to work for the next few years! Also the HSE will likely be watching everything else they do to check that it is all ok.

At other visitors attractions it is a gamble as to how good their H&S will be.

So whilst the accident is awful, given we don't know full details (maybe the driver was drunk from the night before and genuinely didn't know it and it only became apparent on breath test or blood test), and given what I say above - I would still visit.

The problem would be that I may struggle to enjoy myself knowing that only a few weeks before a boy died.