Following on from the "taking in their washing " thread - AIBU to hate friends wandering in the back door thread

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This has just happened as I have come downstairs to find a bag of clothes have appeared on the table. I was having a nice long bath upstairs as my DS is away.So one of my friends has tried the back door, come in and plonked the bag down. Despite plenty of places outside they can leave them.

This happens a lot with friends wandering in through the garden, peering in the glass back door and then just coming in.

My house is a small mid terrace and hasn't got a good layout for privacy. The front door opens on to the hallway leading to the only room. This room has a glass back door to a small high fenced garden with a tall back gate in front my parking space. So basically if you park in the back you cannot see into the garden (people are happy to wander in using the back gate and look then look surprised if I'm in a bikini). They seem to think if they have got that far then it's fine to come in the house.

This doesn't happen at the front door. People ring or knock wait to see if answer and will leave things in the bushes if I'm not in.

AIBU to expect friends to use the front door or if they must use the car park to not come in through the back unless I open the door to them?

Of course YANBU, but you know that.

Why not just keep the gate locked?

It has a bolt near the top that people just reach over and unbolt. I was going too get one put in near the middle but then we could potentially lock ourselves out if we used the front door.

Do I say anything to friend that has left the clothes today though? I have told her before how cross it makes me but I'm not sure she thinks it applies to her. Obviously none of my other friends do either though.

I just don't get how people (of course there are exceptions) think its ok to just walk into someone else's house.

Erm... lock your door? That might help, not that you should have to of course..

More directly, just insist to them Do not come in my house if I don't answer when you knock.

YANBU You need to have a proper lock on your door. You could have been burgled. I would also put better bolts or locks on the garden door. If you use locks then you can just use your own key if you're coming in the back.

It always amazes me when I read of people leaving doors unlocked so anyone can walk in. I have the back (kitchen) door open when I'm in the kitchen washing up on a hot day, not if I'm elsewhere in the house. I don't even leave downstairs windows open when I'm upstairs as someone could easily climb in. That's maybe OTT but I feel jittery knowing there's that possibility.

Your friends ABU unless you've specifically told them it's fine to come in. Just be glad it's only your friends that have come in unexpectedly.

What Jan49 said