new user, first post, long time lurker, so as not to drip feed this might be a bit long,
Me and dh had a good thing going, were never short of a few pound, were carefull enough and have a nice bit saved but things are not so good now, and money is much tighter. we dont like dipping into the savings and try to live within our means as best as we can, we try not to use our life savings for anything, it is for kids college, and majorly expensive, once off, couldnt of seen that coming money, we have day to day savings that we use for say washing machine breaking down, My dm says Im tight, my dh and df say Im carefull and the only one around with a bit of sense,
my dm rang me about a year ago to say that they were finding things really hard, youngest dsis in college, tuition, accomodation, car etc, using the cc more often, savings gone etc, she asked for a loan of a few thousand, and said they would pay it back weekly over 3/4 months, I got the money and gave it to them, poor df was mortified could barely look at me, then they asked for a top up, all the while family stuff in background relative sick, dsis being ungratefull teenager etc,
anyway, they never paid back the loan, needed repayment money for visiting sick relative, new tyres, car insurance etc, anyway this continued for like I said almost a year, they went on holiday few months back, I was a bit put out as still none of the money I had given them had been paid back, but df really needed a break after relative passing away, and I was assured that there was a small inheritance and my loan would be paid back out of that so I said nothing,
Now money still not paid back, inheritance taking time to clear etc, but should be in a few weeks, Im not stuck for the money, I dont need it now, but it is a big chunk of our life savings, and i want it back.
Separately dps have been trying to sell a timeshare they bought years ago, they were not having any luck so I had to step in to help, making phone calls etc, nothing too taxing, anyway I have sorted it for them, but they have to go abroad to sign documents, meet buyer etc. buyer is paying accomodation, we just have to get there, Dm and Df are insisting I go, and this is where the AIBU comes in. They are insisting I go, they wont sell, wont even go if I dont go, I am insisting it is in school holidays and I bring my 2 kids as other wise I cant go, childcare etc, DM is now looking for the price of the flights to be taken off the loan, the flights are around 500 for us 3, dh cant go due to work, my dps will be around the 350 mark, my dps should get over 5k for selling the timeshare, so AIBU to think, that as I have given them an interest free loan, a top up loan, and helped them sell the damn thing, and not fussed or moaned about giving me back myself and Dhs money, that they could at least pay for me and kids flights,