Am i being too sensitive? or is HIBU

[Carriemoo]

Hi,

I'm not sure if i was being too sensitive or whether a work colleage is being unreasonable.

I have just got off a phone call (my current manager is on A/L for a week) where someone is chasing some of his work. I can't pick up this bit of work as a. I have no idea where all the info is most likely on my managers mailbox and b. this will most likely be out of my comfort zone and probably not something i can sort without my managers help.. it's not something we have been trained on yet.

I explained this to this person on the phone and his response was 'well don't you worry your pretty little head over it'... I said to him i didnt like that response and would he please not be so patronising.

My other colleagues heard this and when I came off the phone asked what he had said - most had no issue with it and said I was being over sensitive - so am i? Feel free to say I am as I do sometimes get overly offended over little things and other things pass me by.

Thanks for responding

yanbu to feel annoyed about it. yabu to dwell on it. The person is a prat, and will prbably continue to be one, so let it pass over your head.

wow!!

no you are not being oversensitive at all! is this guy in your company but another department? if so i would be reporting his attitude to his manager.

It was a patronising thing to day so HIBU. Maybe it was a response to you saying it was "out of your comfort zone," which sounds a bit wet? - Still no excuse to use such patronising language though - I can't believe your colleagues thought you were being too sensitive.

Hmmm... tough one. I've said this in an ironic manner to colleagues, people older, younger, men, women and they've all just giggled at it cos I did mean it "ironically" but it can be misconstrued or possibly downright condescending when a bloke says it to a woman. You never know, he might just have been trying to be amusing.

Not over sensitive. Have an informal chat with HR.

So if he follows up with more sexist fuckwittery you have a basis to put a formal complaint in.

YANBU I would be livid! I think your response was good, you told him it was unacceptable - well done for keeping cool.

Ugh, no, it's really not ok. Whether or not he was trying to be ironic or amusing, it's not worth risking people thinking you are actually a sexist, patronising bellend. Well done for challenging him on it.